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writes:Eight years ago, I married the man of my dreams (we had been together for over two years by then). We were both 22 and still in the process of getting our Associate's degrees.Seven years ago, we had our first children (fraternal twins); they were born three months before my husband and I got our Associate's degrees.Three years ago, we had our third child (a boy) and now I'm pregnant with another girl and we both just received our Bachelor's degrees. We both want a fifth child but we both want our Master's degrees first.My main problem is this: I feel like I went too fast with everything. That I didn't accomplish all that I wanted to in the amount of time that I was given before my husband and I even started dating.I don't know how much sense that makes or doesn't make but I'm not entirely sure what to do about my current thoughts. Help is much appreciated, thanks! Reply to this Question
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reader, chigirl  +, writes (12 August 2010):
 Wait with the 5th child perhaps? Maybe one of you could focus on the masters at a time, while the other works, or how exactly are you doing this? Because both parents being students you couldn't possibly afford all the children?
I don't know if you went too fast with things.. but perhaps the better word is slow? You don't say you regret getting married and having children, but you wish you could have your masters already?
What I would suggest is to see and plan how fast you can get your degrees, and what is possible to achieve. And work towards these goals. As I am sure you have already planned it all, and know how long it will take you to get that masters, I don't know exactly what you are asking for?
Maybe it will help you to try and look at the many things you have achieved, instead of feeling down because of the one thing you haven't achieved (yet): your masters. And the masters will come in time as long as you work for it. But the masters is also not all in life ;)
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