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30-35,
anonymous
writes:Hey, i've been with my boyfriend for a year i love him so much and even though he loves me back i still think he feels more strongly for his ex then me and it kills me ...He still talks about her and still keeps a memory box of things they did together and photo's. She cheated on him three times and treated him really badly and i really hate her for hurting him but he's always defending her when his friends talk about her and it makes me feel inadequate i guess and a little hurt, ive spoken to him about it but he keeps saying its over now and there different people. i just want a guys point of view really...should i let this go or would you be hurt/angry if you were in my position?thanks :)
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 December 2008): hi i was the one that posted the problem last night, thanks for all your help to the two people who replied to my problem. it really helped, i'm trying to accept the fact that he might still be in love with his ex but i dont think i can let him go, i love and care about him to much and i want to stay with him and hopefully he'll forget about her...its been a year, but maybe he needs longer.
He did really love her and she was his first love.
i cant actually bring myself to ask him to get rid of the box hes obviously kept it becasue it still means something to him and i dont think i can force that away from him.
thanks for all your help!
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reader, Griffo  +, writes (25 December 2008):
 Yeah I've got gfs that after 10 years I still talk too there just mates though nothing else but it's pretty rare. He must have really loved her if he's keeping all these things about her was she his first love? Funny how she cheated on him three times and he loved her for the humiliation.
I'm sorry but it sound as if he still loves her. It's not his fault if she was his first he obviously really likes/lives you otherwise he wouldn't be with you but the sad thing about young love is our parents all or lives teach us to love: friends, family, brothers and sisters but they never teach us how to u live somebody that's something we have to learn ourselves.
He needs to end it burn the box he will cry and it will tear him to bits in his heart but he needs to do it for his own wellveing and to move on from her.
You will need to support him as best ad you can 100% every time only then you will know it's time fir yourself to move one because you will have no retreats and you'll know you gave him your best shot and support.
Be strong.
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