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writes:hi people! I know this is a common question on here, I just wanted to know how I can overcome jealousy?its a horrible feeling n its effecting my life..I also have a problem with comparing my life to others n finding how much more better their life is incomparison to mine, I keep regreting things n wish I did things in the past. I just want to be happy n appreciate life and become more secure about myself n be sucessfull in everything..I dnt seem to believe in myself enough I get scared..the good thing is I try not to show it other people and cover it up. I also have a problem with becoming close to people, for example my gf has some very good friends that she has made..I never say it but deep down i wish i had that closeness n comfort with my friends..i dont understand why im like this. Help me someone please its driving me mad i cant cope anymore..
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reader, waogwan +, writes (20 November 2007):
waogwan is verified as being by the original poster of the questionthankyou i will take all that into account i think i just need to stay positive n start focusing on the future...thankyou
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reader, Georgie2778 +, writes (19 November 2007):
Hi there,
Please don't think your alone in comparing your life to other peoples, I think if you asked your friends they will all have done it too. You have a girlfriend, so you are learning to get closer to people, it is not always easy. Sometimes things that have happened in our lives affect the way we see & feel about things in our futures. Jealousy is a horrid beast, face it head on & when you do ask yourself what it is that actually makes you jealous, can you change it? influence it? or do sod all about it? If you can't change or influence it, you need to remove yourself from that situation, put it in the 'sod all' box and hammer down the lid.
Personally, if I were you, (it sounds quite cliche) get a big bit of paper and write a list... Things I'd Like To Do Before I'm 30 (you are 18-21? you have so much time to live & do all the things you want to do) put down everything, parachute jumping, marathon running, scuba diving, travelling, marriage....whatever it is YOU want, put it all down, then try to see if you can do one or two things during a year. It won't all come at once, be patient. Nothing is out of reach or unacheivable if you put your mind to it.
Look at your job - are you happy to get out of bed each day and go to work? If not, change your job NEVER do something that you hate it is demoralzing.
Do things for other people, it is an easy way to help make you feel better about yourself; your parents, friends, elderly relatives or neighbours, into sports? help out the kids football team. Try doing something different, maybe you are stuck in a rut, forget for a second what your friends think about you and go out there and do something you really want to do.
Sorry if i've rambled on, hope some of it makes sense?
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