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writes:Why do I feel so pointless? How come no guy ever likes me? So these questions started to arise after this guy who I liked who I told many time asked me if I had a boyfriend and I said no and asked why do you care and he said I’m jw I don’t like u anymore bc I like your best friend and this is when I broke this guy has been there for me for a long time and for a while I thought maybe I could have something special but he turns around and says he likes her better because she’s prettier and took a while for my feelings for her to come back and frankly you’re annoying and I just am heartbroken but I can’t gwt him out of my head I really want him back what do I do? Also she gets every guy i ever liked I just wanted something to myself but nope she hates me help.
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reader, aunt honesty  +, writes (22 March 2018):
 You need to ask yourself why you feel no guy ever likes you. Are you approachable? Friendly? He asked you a question and your answer was why don't you care? Maybe he felt rejected there, I would find that rude so he told you he doesn't like you any more and tried to hurt you back. It sounds like playground stuff not a way people act as adults! You need to talk to him like an adult and tell him how you feel. If your friend knows you like these guys and tries to take them away then she is not a friend.
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reader, N91  +, writes (22 March 2018):
 Can you give me one good reason why you want this guy back?
Im sorry but you must be desperate to want to pursue a guy like that who can disrespect you like that to your face.
If someone spoke to me like that they would be out of my life faster than they came in it. I suggest you cut this guy out also.
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reader, TylerSage +, writes (22 March 2018):
 This guy sounds like a complete ass....maybe too much of an ass. I say this because you mentioned that he's been there for you, plus I believe you said that you told him you liked him multiple times. Naturally, I would assume he was a confidant in some sense but the "What do you care?" response sounds like you were playing hard to get. Is it possible that he made some advancement towards you and you pushed him aside? He words sounds very vindictive.
I'd assume you've told him how you are sometimes annoyed by your friend. It seems to me as if he used his words against you. Note that he also described you as annoying. I get the impression that there was something you did to offend him in some way without realising it.
Regardless, he still sounds like a pig. Don't waste your time on people who make you feel like you're hard to love. Instead of being sad about this, ask yourself what you can learn from it. How can his words prepare you for the future?
How he speaks to you is a reflection of how he feels towards himself. Misery loves company. Work on loving and accepting who you are, don't compare yourself to others in that way. Your time will come.
All the best.
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reader, Andie's Thoughts +, writes (21 March 2018):
 OP, saying "no boyfriend, why do you care?" is rude and confrontational. Most guys will find that off-putting.
OP, your friend can't "steal" the interest of anyone who isn't already interested in her. If you have an attitude, even subconsciously, then it'll be a huge turn off for guys.
Does she know you like these guys? Even if she does, she can't take what isn't yours and they must be into her or she wouldn't end up with any of them.
Do you want a guy who thinks you're annoying? Regardless of his feelings for her, he finds you irritating, so she didn't steal his interest in you.
I think you need to have a look at yourself, the way you come across, the guys you like, how you act around them, etc.
"I just wanted something to myself but nope she hates me" - Don't be dramatic and immature; she turned him down and he never liked you. I'm sorry it hurts, OP, but you can't blame her and you can't "get him back" because he was never yours.
Guys who like you won't end up with her. She turned this guy down and he still didn't want to be with you. Her dating some of the guys you like sucks a bit, but you're putting them off.
OP, I think you need to work on yourself. She's not taking anything from you; you're jealous and annoying guys. I'm sorry it's hard to hear, but you need to focus on improving yourself, not throwing a tantrum that guys prefer her. It's not because she's prettier - sure, some guys will think she's prettier, just like some will think you're prettier - but the main thing is your attitude.
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reader, Honeypie +, writes (21 March 2018):
 Why would you want a toad like that?
This guy is NOR big prize. The fact that he played games with you and then went after your friend should tell you all.
And your friend and you need to split ways. If she has "gotten" ALL the guy that you went for then she sees it as a game. Also neither of you know what a true friendship is.
Being "prettier" is not a quality, that is just genetics. You look how you look and she looks like she does. If this guy is so shallow he thinks LOOKS are more important then (again) why are you interested in him?
You want this guy because HE doesn't want you.
He doesn't want you (my guess) because you threw yourself at him and you played games. He might not even REALLY be interested in either you or your friend but he wanted to get back at you for how you treated him in the beginning.
Also... If you talk how you write... well, then I can see this guy's point.
You state your age group is 22-25 but what you write sounds like a bunch of MIDDLE-SCHOOL drama - so TWEEN stuff. Time to grow up.
Stop talking to her, and stop talking to him.
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 March 2018): Please read your post and rewrite it without abbreviations. I assume English is your second language; or you simply wrote your post in a hurry, and while feeling very emotional. You get better answers when we can better understand what you are explaining. I will do my best.
You may be spending too much time with this friend of yours. Maybe it is time to put some distance between you and her, to go your own way.
You wouldn't have so much trouble with her eyeing your guys; if you weren't keeping her so involved in your life and into your personal-business. You need to grow-up and be more independent. Seek better friendships, and stop checking-out guys who have seen her first! Maybe you only want them because you think they want her?
If a guy says all the horrible stuff that guy said to you; he must have been interested in her first, and you fancied him without considering the fact he wasn't into you. Well, why would he say such things to you if he liked you the same as you liked him? I don't think he ever did.
Could it be you spend so much time around your girlfriend, he couldn't see the best in you?
Prettier is not a reason to love someone. You love from the heart not with your eyes.
If he likes your girlfriend for her looks; then you're better-off without him. Any guy who could say things like that to you is a pretty mean person. Unless you are chasing after him knowing he's not attracted to you.
He doesn't have to be mean about it, but if you don't listen; he has no choice. If you don't stand-up for yourself, everyone will walk all over you.
Distance yourself from your girlfriend. If you feel jealousy for her; then it is definitely time you part ways. You aren't being a friend if you don't wish her well;
If she takes everything from you; stop calling her your friend. You're the foolish one; if you can't figure-out she's undermining you. Blocking guys from you just for the fun of it. While you just get mad about it. Then stop hanging around with someone like her.
Your post is a little messy grammatically, but I did my best.
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