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writes:I genuinely need help. Sry for long story. I,m 21 male. Long story short,when i was 17 i had feelings for my cousin,it was my first love. I was a late bloomer. I proposed her, she turned me down. And, she also used me with few other stuffs so i was damn depressed. It was a year long depression. After 2 years or so i met a girl,she became friends with me. i had no feelings for. I used to be so sad and depressed then that i could not sleep at nights. That girl lets call her 'A' used to talk to me,console me and gradually pulled me out of depression. She is average looking but she is the sweetest person i ve ever known on earth. She is a practical angel type girl who is my best friend now. A has been friends with me for a year now,she never expressed any feelings for me or anything but i feel like she likes me. We both know each other so good. Spend time with each other, we are both single. But, none of us ever expressed anything . Then, the story took a turn 4months back i met another girl who A also knows,lets call her B. B is different,she is beautiful,smart, hot and kinda outgoing unlike A. I kinda got into flirting with B on social sites and face to face. She flirted back. Now,she has kinda asked me out indirectly. Now that B wants to go out with me i dont know Whether i even like her. I,m confused. If think about B i feel like i am cheating A. I told A everythin ,she is still calm and sweet to me. I told A the real reason i dont wanna date B. Which is that i,m not sure whether i love B. And if i do start dating her i might end up getting B hurt which i just realized and dont want. Now,i,m so filled with guilt that i,m backing off with B and hurting her.while i again think i cheated A while flirting with B. I,m so depressed again after long time. Pls advise me something. I like A.but i,m not even sure whether i love her and wanna be with her. Ps :in my country, its kinda old fashioned, breaking up is a taboo here. Its still mostly about one girl here. Thats y all my fear of hurting these girls built up. Sorry for poor english. Thanks.pls help me out
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 September 2010): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks a lot. But, um just to hurt one of them or loose A,my best fiend.
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 September 2010): Hey u shouldn't feel bad about anything. A is always gonna be there for you as long as you need her so I've read. But you do need to talk to B and tell her what's going on (don't explain in full detail though.) If she doesn't understand maybe she isn't right for you after all. If she does, then she'll want to be more of a friend. Hope this helps. :) ps: your english is fine. :)
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