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writes:I was dating my ex for nine months and i broke it off with her. We kept on talking every day and hanging out like we were still together though this went on for about a year where she wanted to get back with me and have the title and i wasnt sure i wanted to be with her. I kind of did some hurtful things along the way little but still hurtful. Low and behold when i finally did realize what i wanted i had kinda pushed her completely away and she didnt want it anymore. So pretty much for the past year the situation has been reversed now I want her and she isnt sure what she wants, her main thing is that shes afraid if we get back together that once were comfortable again that I will pull the same stuff i did before and i have tried showing her in the past year that I have changed and that i truly love her and unfortunately it took losing her to really realize how much she means to me and how much i truly love her the situation totally sucks because everything that she is doing now is exactly what i did to her and now im seeing how hurtful it was and i just want to be with her but she isnt sure what she wants.Meanwhile in all this time neither of us has found someone even close to that we cared about as much as we do with each other its a huge mess and i am only human and i even told her that shes starting to push me away the way I did with her and every time we stop talking she finds a way to contact me for a reason, its like she doesnt want me but she doesnt want to see me move on and im hanging on by a thread, its really bad and im letting it get to the point where i have that i dont care attitude any more and im about to say screw it forget the whole thing.If anyone has any suggestions please im all ears i just wanna be with someone and be happy and if its not with her i need to find the best way to say goodbye to her and erase her from my life completely so i can move forward.
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 November 2009): Tbh it sounds like you two are never going to work, I posted a similar situation nearly a year ago and i've been there. Treated her quite badly and finished with her only to realise i wanted to be back with her but she wasn't sure then vice-versa. As hard as it seems I would just explain to her that you think it's best not to contact each other for a while, delete each others phone numbers, facebook accounts etc... and then get rid of everything that reminds you of her because it'll just make you think back.
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