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writes:HiMy ex of 5 months has stopped contacting me. I ended the relationship. However, we has stayed friends and every few weeks catch up. Now in the past month ive head nothing from her and the email reply i got before that was fairly short and politeMy friends have seen her around but what's happened to the contact? and why has she stopped contact? She was so friendly in the previous months.Help!thankyou Reply to this Question
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reader, dearkelja  +, writes (26 August 2008):
 You did end this relationship. Your expectation for her to remain friends long term was idealistic. In order for her to move on and hopefully find someone new, yes, she probably does need to end the friendship. Yes it is possible she met someone and it is also possible that in order for her to completly move on AND meet someone she needed to distance herself from the friendship....and you.
You seem to care an awful lot about someone you gave up.
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 August 2008): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks for your answers folks, they make sense. Maybe she has met someone else could be a possibility I was thinking?
Could this be a reason why she hasn't replied to me?
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reader, dearkelja +, writes (26 August 2008):
Sometimes we maintain a friendship out of routine and also because it helps curb the breakup hurt. Once the realization hits that it's over, we can't really move on while maintaining the friendship so we move on and the contact becomes less and less frequent and less and less engaging. I believe it is a natural course. In the future you two will still be friendly if you see each other. To expect her (or you) to move on with her life while maintaining this close friendship just isn't plausable. Perhaps too she was hoping that you would change your mind and want to get back together. When that didn't happen, she needed to pull away so she could move forward.
Give her some time and then try contacting her again to catch up.
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 August 2008): There are three different reasons that I can tell you why....one she probably is going through some things in her life right now and needs to be alone....two she was probably hurt by the fact that you all are no longer together and cannot handle the idea of you two just being friends...or three she probably just does not want to talk to you and has moved on....if you feel that you want to know what is going on then you should call her...if she answers then you can ask her why does she never call...and if she ignores you then you just have to let her be...hoped this has helped...(:
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