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writes:on sunday i ended my friendship with a guy i was close friends with for a few years. im really upset about it. throughtout the friendship hes been fun to be with and is a nice person but is also a liar and tells tall stories constantly. he also lied to me recently about a girl he was seeing and as a result got scammed by her. ive tried to support him no end, helping him with work money you name it-and he seems to think im there for him always and takes it for granted and wont answer my emails for days, etc. he wasnt like this when we first met. anyway on sunday i sent an email basically saying i was through with helping him and that the friendship was through. he texted back saying he was sorry to hear that and that was that. hes not even been in touch to salvage this. im in bits that he thinks so little of me. he always expected me to contact him first if we rowed or had problems but i havent but am still hurt he hasnt. whats he thinking or does he care ?
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 June 2011): I do not want to lump you into a catergory, but there are many individuals who I have met that like to play games with the people in their lives, regardless of the extent of the relationship. It reads as though the only reason that you ended the friendship was because you wanted him to fight to regain it. Now that he has not chosen to play by your rules, it is a problem. You expected for him to be heart broken over losing such a good friend, to the extent that he would change his ways and beg to regain your favor. I think that if you wanted to end the relationship you should have done just that, but in all actuality you still want him as your friend. I think honesty works better than all the subliminal games that people play. No emails, call him and set up a meeting face to face. Tell him everything he has done to offend you. Give him the opportunity to speak his peace and then make a decision to either remain friends or close that chapter in your lives and move on.
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