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writes:Hi all Sorry this is quite long. i have this problem at the mo which im havin trouble solvin. Wot it is my ex best friend wants to be friends again, she contacted me through facebook, basically when we was mates a couple yrs back she told me she has started seein an ex of mine, i was furious, mainly that she never came to me 1st asked if im ok bout it, anyway we kinda didnt spk very much and i just gave up coz i was too bitter and angry and have been ever since. The guy she is with was with me for 4 yrs, i was crushed when he finished with me. I no she misses me, and i do kinda miss her i mean we was friends for about 14yrs b4 all this! Should i try and stop this bitterness and be friends again or wot? I dont like bein this person anymore, but can i change. Wot do i do?
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reader, Carrot2000  +, writes (5 June 2010):
 Knowing how devastated you were when your relationship ended, she should have been more considerate of your feelings, but that's water under the bridge now. I'm sure she has come to understand how her actions hurt you.
I think you can be friends again, but it will take some time before things go back to the way they were. Are you going to be comfortable sharing things about your life with her? Are you going to be comfortable being around her and your ex (if they're still together) or having her talk about their relationship? Ease back into the friendship; do the Facebook thing for a while and see how that goes.
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reader, Miamine +, writes (4 June 2010):
 14years is a long time.. guess the guy is long gone now.. start again, forget the past, send her a quick facebook message, something to make you both laugh... facebook friends at first until you both feel comfortable enough to meet up and go out.
Life is short, it's not worth being angry and upset. You miss your friend, let her back into your life, you were good friends for a long time because your relationship was special.
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reader, laetitia  +, writes (4 June 2010):
 She stabbed you on the back by starting to date your ex-bf! Best friends do not date you ex-bf. You should tell her that. If I AM YOU, I will not be friends with her!!!! She is the type of girl who chooses "dicks before chicks"!
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reader, Saranghaexxbby +, writes (4 June 2010):
 I think you should follow your heart. Just don't keep getting that close with her again, because : REMEMBER: you can hurt others but u don't wanna hurt ur self, U can heel others but you don't wanna heel someone if u wont be heeled too. =)
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