A
female
age
30-35,
*ackpot
writes:Dear Cupid,Okay, so I've been friends with this guy for about 3 or 4 years now (I'll call him A). He's 19, I'm 16. Basically since I met him he's been in a long-term relationship, so there was never any question of romantic interest. We get on really really well, and though I don't see him all that much we text very often and sometimes I'll drop round his house to say hi. About a year ago I started to have strong feelings for him, but I grew out of it eventually 'cause he was in this long-term thing and I could never see anything happening between us. We're really good friends, and know each other really well etc.So. Me and my friend went round to A's new apartment yesterday to hang out and meet his housemates. Everyone got on great and had a good time. Then as we were leaving I needed to get my bag from A's room so we went upstairs.... And then we kissed!! It was a complete shock to me, obviously because I thought he was still with this girl and never expected that he'd have those sorts of feelings for me - so I pulled away. He asked if I was alright, and I mumbled something then rushed back downstairs and we left.Later on he texted me saying he was sorry, and that he hadn't realised I didn't know he was single (he split up with his girlfriend about a month ago). We talked it out, and he's invited me round this weekend, and I just KNOW something will happen.So what should I do? I'm worried about the age difference because he has a house and a job and a totally different social group to me... however, this didn't stop us being friends so really it shouldn't be a problem? Neither of us are bothered about the gap, I'm just not sure what parents would say as my mum's been a bit wary before about me being friends with him. I'm sure she'd be cool with it eventually though. Also, I wouldn't want to wreck the amazing friendship incase we do get together and it doesn't work out.Please help, I'd like to hear what everybody thinks.Sorry if this was a long question!Thankyou :) xxxxx
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reader, jackpot +, writes (27 March 2008):
jackpot is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThankyou guys, great responses!
I'll let you know how it goes when I've been round.
Anyone else got something to say? :)
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reader, RG +, writes (27 March 2008):
You guys seem pretty well suited, and if you do get together it could work out in the long term... you think commitment is important and it looks like he is a faithful man. Check if he really has finished with his girlfriend, cos they might just be going through a rough patch and get together when they calm down. If you and him get together too soon it might end up hurting you big time, as well as ruining your friendship. Just don't rush into it.
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reader, Emily123 +, writes (27 March 2008):
Just talk to him, if you have feelings for him and he has you ask if you can take it slow, and if it doesnt work out would you still be friends, relationships are always tricky if they involve friends my advice would be follow your heart, afterall your happiness comes first, dont rush into things, if you feel uncomfortable at any time tell him, and just see how it works. Hope this helps.
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