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writes:Hi I'm an 18 y/o girl and lost my virginity earlier this year. It was great, and the foreplay was even better, except as he was kissing his way down there I was pulling him back up. I told him I wasn't comfortable with him going down on me, like I was shy. I wasn't shy per say. I was scared that one taste and he'd be off. We weren't in a relationship and therefore he could just leave if he wanted to. I still let him pleasure me in other ways with his hands etc, but I kind of feel like I missed out. I've always wanted to know what it felt like for a guy to go down on me (I went down on him) but I thought too much into it I guess and I panicked when he tried. I've done 'taste tests' before and I don't taste 'bad' just not 'good'. It's sort of tangy and a little bit sweet. When I get turned on, the secretions taste kind of like pee. To me it's not terrible, but I feel like I'm biased because it's me. I don't think I taste bad but others might. I know I'll never taste like fruit cake and syrup but still, I want to be close as :D am I worrying over nothing or should I do something about it? My first time, I cleansed my entire body from head to toe until my entire body (including my vag) smelt like Johnson's baby bath (I use it because it's pH balanced and good for sensitive skin). So I knew I was clean enough but I was still worried. How do I make myself taste better "down there" so I don't have to panic in the future?
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reader, Nancy50  +, writes (2 August 2017):
 Oral sex is great. I have had an active sex life since the age of 21 (I am now 50, and I was single until I was 40, and i have had several lovers). I have performed oral sex with the majority of my ex lovers, of course I am a very clean and hygienic woman. And I have practiced oral sex without condon to many men and I have never contracted any disease. I think it's not so easy to get a disease doing oral sex, unless you have a wound in your mouth
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reader, Andie's Thoughts +, writes (22 July 2017):
 PH balanced is BS because nobody's PH levels are the same. It's good for skin, but not for genitals - no soap is needed down there, even ones marketed as "downstairs soap". Just give it a good rinse in the shower and you're good to go. If a guy complains about your smell/taste, he's either not keen on oral with anyone (which is okay) or he's expecting unrealistic tastes.
Please use condoms for oral and for intercourse, even if you're on birth control. If you aren't on birth control, please get on it asap, even if you're not planning on full intercourse. Never have sex (oral included) without both condoms and birth control, even if a guy refuses the condom - not until you're ready for a baby.
Just water. Condoms. Birth control. You're good to go :)
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 July 2017): Not to sound crude but those areas are where body waste come out, also where sweat accumulate so there is always the risk of bad odor. As chigirl says to eliminate the risk one should, male or female, wash the area thoroughly with water and soap and apply a light perfume. Having said that,also men are visual creatures and take immense pleasure in seeing the female parts and bits so giving oral is also a great visual feast for them.
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reader, judgedick  +, writes (19 July 2017):
 As the others said so I don't have to go over it again, just like to point out don't believe what you see in advertising that you need to wash with ph balanced products to get clean, a load of bull just clean water is best, would you like to suck a shampoo bottle? and there are fewer germs in your vagina than in your mouth so would you wash your mouth out with soap before you french-kiss?
There is something wrong if you are driving your car down the street and someone can smell your perfume while walking on the footpath, I know it is one of France's biggest exports but some people and not just women think they have to over use it or worse still they put it on over stale perfumes, we all like to be clean but the people that go over the top are as bad as the people that don't wash ever.
for Your first time, you were lucky as the first time for most is not the best and is nothing like films make it look, I just like to add even though this was your first time and you were not in a relationship you are opening yourself up to STD's and I don't want to sound like your in school but condoms are a must even if your on the pill, bla bla bla you know the drill and it is for your own good
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reader, Denizen +, writes (19 July 2017):
 Don't worry about your natural odour. It is a turn on. Men are wired to respond to it. As previous Aunts said, as long as your hygiene is good then there is nothing to worry about. And if any man doesn't enjoy the experience he needn't go there. It's his choice.As for you, the same applies. If you don't like it, don't do it. It isn't a requirement of lovemaking. It is just an extra in your bag of tricks to give pleasure. There are so many other alternatives if you find oral a turn-off.
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reader, Dionee'  +, writes (19 July 2017):
 Hi there OP.
The advice you've received so far is so great and so accurate because yes, you may not like your own taste, but he may not feel the same way. Often times we're so self conscious that we end up psyching ourselves out filling in thoughts for people that may not be true.
My advice is, be confident in yourself. As long as your personal hygiene is good (as you've said) then you shouldn't worry at all. After all, you're supposed to enjoy the intimate experience of having a guy pleasure you down there. It's all about convincing yourself that you smell and taste great because if you start to enjoy yourself then guess what? Your man will enjoy you too.
Go on and enjoy the intimacy. The sooner you gain more confidence, the better.
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reader, chigirl  +, writes (19 July 2017):
 I don't like the taste of my own juices. My boyfriend doesn't understand this at all, he thinks I taste amazing and sweet and he gets super turned on by both taste and smell.
So, doing "test tasting" on yourself isn't going to make any difference.
But, if you are nervous, do this. Drink pineapple juice 2-4 hours before sex. Pineapple juice will make your smell and taste go VERY mild. Really. I've tested and tried, it works with both men and women. The taste sort of disappears.
Second, wash with water before sex. Just water, no soap. Just a rinse. Especially if you've had a long day, or just went to the bathroom. Just do a quick rinse and you will wash away all bathroom smells and tastes and any sweat from a long day. New underwear after the rinse will also help you feel and smell fresh.
I sincerely doubt any man will feel the same about your taste as you do. They love it. You just don't love it yourself. But you're not the one going down on you, so what you think of the taste doesn't matter at all. But, if you're not comfortable with letting a guy taste you "as is", then do the things I wrote above and you will feel much more at ease.
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