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writes: Separated and it isnt fun! I wanted to separate from my unhappy marriage last year. My ex wasnt a bad man just that I didnt find him attractive anymore in an emotional or physical sense.Anyway, Im an attractive 33 year old and should be having fun on the dating scene, right? WRONG.My ex did physically assault me and use mental torture during our break up as a bad reaction and this has left me feeling raw. I seem to attract guys who are for want of a better word, assholes. I had a 2 month relationship with someone that was casual then he started to play mind games with me and made me feel bad about myself so it ended, though even now almost 2 months on I cry over what a loser I acted like with that man.I met someone else recently off the internet, we talked for almost a month before meeting, have met 3 times. We get on well and have had great sex (2nd date and 3rd date...I know). But am I destined to another jerk now? I had a brief email off him on Tuesday (its now Friday) and replied on wednesday with a breezy, chatty if flirty email saying that I was free on Thursday and Sunday this week. I have heard nothing :( I even cracked and sent a brief one earlier today, I didnt berate me not getting in touch about yesterday, but I ended up having a little cry over it. I give out all 'I want just a casual fling' vibes but surely an email or text message isnt too much to ask? I feel myself sinking into the depths and I know its a stupid over reaction but I cant help myself! Can anyone offer some words of advice? Please? XXX
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reader, shania  +, writes (8 April 2006):
 Right...today is saturday (well it is where i am) and has he contacted you yet?....if this chap hasn't then it looks like,he has lost interest in you,now i could be wrong but in my book if a fella is keen enough on a woman he would make sure that he stays in frequent contact with you.Yes,he may work long hours...that he has a child to look after but it takes seconds to either ring you....email you...txt you or whatever.You said in your letter that you gave off vibes with "I want just a casual fling"....maybe these guys are getting these vibes so therefore wont pursue you for too long because you are not looking for anything serious,which is ok but the trouble is,you are not happy.Flings are just that...they dont last long,there not really fulfilling and the excitement wears off after awhile.Maybe you are not cut out for casual relationships because now you are feeling sad and empty.Im not telling you on what you should do but maybe if you didn't have sex so soon and get to know the fella 1st.Good luck and let me know how you get on.
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reader, d4u04 +, writes (8 April 2006):
 Well i don't think an email is too much to ask, but how often is he online? because you might be thinking he's ignoring you when actually he hasn't had a chance to get on the internet all week for some various reasons but skip the text messages and call him instead. And whether he answers or responds with a valid reason why he didn't answer (if he doesn't) you'll know either way if he's an asshole, you can just tell really, it's instinctive eventually.
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reader, simone67 +, writes (8 April 2006):
simone67 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionNobody will help? :(
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reader, simone67 +, writes (7 April 2006):
simone67 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionJust to add, he does have a stressful job with long hours and also spends some evenings taking care of his son from a previous relationship, Im not giving myself false hope here as even then a few lines of email isnt too much to ask.Also I know I slept with him too quickly perhaps, I love sex and miss it, what can I say?
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