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anonymous
writes:I've been with this guy for 5 months now: 2 months ago he's lost his job. I've been trying to keep him happy doing all he has ask(like sex, money, cooking 4 him, washing his clothes, etc.). We don't live together but he stays 2 blocks from my house. I help him pay his rent this month; but he says he's still depress. He has a son by his ex, his truck was broken into, I always take him out, always pay, always asking him how he feels. Yesterday I text him to make sure he was okay and I gave him some up lifting words. He texted me back, saying he was depressed and sexually fustrated. I explain to him we dont have sex as much because I work over 12hrs a day and have school work to do when I get home. He says he loves it when we have sex but he want it almost everyday like with his ex's.I said It won't be everyday. He text me back saying "You don't like having sex with him, you dont like going out with me; Have a nice day". We go out every weekend almost, he's over my house atleast 4 to 5 days a week. 4 days out of 7 I give him all the sex he wants when Im so tired after work. By then my day was messed up and I told him he fucked it up. He laughs at me like it made him feel good to hurt me. (sorry I am taking so long)I asked why he was laughing and I said he gets mad at my over little things. One time he got made because i asked him to let go of me. He wanted me to give him some after I've been up since 2am and it was after 11pm at night. He disappear for 3days and came back saying he wasnt bipolar anymore I forgave him, and said nothing else about it. Well yesterday I got upset over something he said and asked him to give me time to think things over. This morning I tried to come to piece with him but he has not answer my calls or texts. I think he is pulling that disappear game with me again.I dont know what to do with him anymore, If I tell him he is starting to make my unhappy, he gets mad and would say go be with one of your male friends. I've never cheated on him; He's never cheated on me. What to do please help, Im becoming depressed and I dont want to give up on him but he is pushing me away.
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 March 2009): Thank you both of you, I told your advise and now he's trying to make thinks work. I backed off, I act more like a friend not a wife and it made him step up his game.
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 March 2009): First off what are you doing acting like a wife or worse a slave. You do not cook, clean, and pay rent for a fully grown man who is on his own and not your husband.
One of the reason's he is treating you so poorly and pushing you away is you are taking over his life where he should be able to take care of himself and doing too much for him. He may even think you are trying to be his mother. Stop that. He needs to do for you, he needs to court you, not the other way around. You also are "giving him all the sex he wants".....and he still isn't being very nice to you.
I don't know what his problem is, I don't care about his troubles, they are not your responsibility and he is using you and taking you for granted and now he is humiliating you....
Get rid of this loser! If he is bipolar he will make your life a living hell until he gets on medication and takes treatment and even then he will be hard to deal with at times.
Do you have any self worth at all? I hope that you can get away from this guy and start doing for yourself.
Take care.
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reader, 2old4this +, writes (26 March 2009):
 I think you have to leave him for your own sanity. He does sound like he is very bipolar. First off he needs to go get some meds from a doc to help him with it. It could make him act better overall but he will always have problems with it from time to time. I think you should stop enabling him by basically allowing him to continue like he is. Back off and maybe be his friend but nothing more for a while. Let him fix his problems. If he doesnt then you move on. If it looks like he is really trying then you can talk about being with him again if you still want. Go from there.
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