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writes:Right , I'm starting to get really annoyed with my best friends girlfriend. She's never liked me. I haven't known ,well lets call him A , i haven't known him for that long , and he is the nicest guy and we clicked straight away. He is in loads of my classes at school i always sit with him and we have a good laugh , its gotten me into trouble with teachers but hes such a funny guy and i think i like him. people have said that he likes me to but he has a girlfriend , iv never made advances on him or anything never convinced him to dump her or anything yet she seems to think theres something going on , we've explained thousands of times NOTHING is going on and she even gets her mates to spy on us during lessons! which i think is out of order. I know how much A likes her and i don't want to see him get hurt by her because she doesn't trust him , recently i told him that maybe i should back off a bit after putting myself in her shoes i saw where she was coming from and so i said its only fair if i give him some space , but he replied saying don't be stupid i don't want to stop being friends with you because of her!. yesterday he came round mine , he was meant to be going out with her but what happened was my mate asked him if he wanted to come to mine with her , and he said well i would but i'm going out with my GF but i guarantee she cancels on me , because she always does , so he said he'd let us know . So as he predicted she canceled on him he said its okay ill just go see Amy (which is me) and all of a sudden she said oh i can go now! and he said no its okay i'm going to see Amy :) , i felt bad for her about it but we had a good time and he'd bought me a CD of my favorite band ! and now i'm really confused about how he feels. my friends say he likes me and always stares at me when hes around me , hes a lovely guy so sweet and thoughtful and i don't want to fall out with him , but his girlfriend has started spreading rumors about us saying i tried to kiss him and that i tried it on with him which is NOT true , i'm not that type of person i wouldn't want to hurt anyone especially not A , but its just got so out of hand , its like she has him on a liesh he cant see me and when he does he gets accused of cheating! , i don't want to come between them but i don't want to lose him. also when he is with me he says he doesn't like her and hes getting fed up of her , i don't know if he is making hints but i don't want to get the wrong idea , PLEASE help me x
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reader, KeighleySky +, writes (8 June 2010):
 Your not a cow, and to be honest i dont know what he#'s playing at! and honey dont say sorry for asking advice, imperfectly happy to give advice to you. He needs to sort himself out, you need to tell him that he cant turn to you and tell you he likes you MORE than her and then refuse to dump her. She sounds like a right b****. I am so infuriated by men like this. But right now you have three options, 1) Give up on him becasue he cant decidemor 2) tell him you like him too and that if he likes you more then why not dump her? You need to get a straight answer. 3) tell him to stop playing with you be a man and choose!Your a woman take charge and set him right xx
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 June 2010): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionHey :) sorry i need some more advice. i'm horrible i'm a cow and a bitch :/ i went out with the guy and my other mate and me and them were playing dares and the other guy dared me to kiss A and he kept daring us , i didn't want to but i did and when the other guy left me and A were talking and we kind of got in . i feel terrible and i'm afraid its effected our friendship. I feel sick at the thought i did that to someone. i'm worried this will get out , that maybe someone saw. But it was spur of the moment thing! i know thats no excuse but it just happened ! and now we're not speaking. one day and my life has been turned upside down one stupid mistake and i haven't got a clue . now iv'e just gone and proved her right as well i feel so bad. and now i don't know what to do , he says he really does like me more then her but he wont dump her I'm such a harsh cow now i dunno what to do x
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reader, KeighleySky +, writes (4 June 2010):
Ask him why he doesnt want to break up with her? if he likes you and personally shes a bit of a bitch then why doesnt he dump her??
You know honey sometimes i just wanna give every man alive a slap, they all need one. Ask him why he wont break up with her, she cancels on him all the time so shes obviously not reliable and by the way he said that she'd cancel shows that hes kinda fed up of it.
You know sometimes i really cant tolerate men. Honey ask him outright, not in a confrontational way-just say 'if she's so unreliable and you like me then why dont you break up with her?' because he cant be telling you he liks you and not break up with her.
Have you told him you like him back? he may not know whether you reciprocate his feelings?
Good luck again honey and feel free to ask me any more advice :) xxxx
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 June 2010): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks for your advice:) . but i need some more now please because hes told me he has feelings for me :/ but he doesnt want to break up with her and now i really dont have a clue of what to do :/ x
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reader, KeighleySky +, writes (3 June 2010):
If hes coming to you for advice then tell him what you think. If i were you i would tell him that if he thinks it will work with her then stay with her but there is no point in dragging their relationship on if he doesn't want her anymore, and also him losing interest in her and gaining interest in you is putting strain on you because of the rumours. You need to tell her to sto[p spreading rumours, she has no right. If she continues inform a teacher. He needs to make up his mind and either dump her now or stay with her and tell her to stop sedning rumours around about his friend.
Your not coming between them honey, she's the one whose doing that. The way she's carring on shes going to lose him, and when she does she may blame you. But it will be her own fault not yours! Just be there for him and give him the shoulder he needs. The only thing you can do about the rumours is calmly turn around and say there not true, if you mak a big deal of them people will suspect that they're true.
Good luck honey :) xx
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