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writes:Me and my boyfriend have been dating 2 1/2 years and I take school pretty seriously because i come from a well educated family and want to live great without struggles. The problem is that my boyfriend was raised in a broken home and his moms a nut job, and none of her kids graduated high school and she couldent care less. I care about him alot and want him to have a good life and get a good job, but im the only one telling him this. Hes always absent and doesent care because no one makes him do s***. How do i get him to care without being mean?! Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 March 2011): OMG...I am in this situation...the exact one.My bf couldnt care less, he could be in a job making next to nothing and just having enough to cover bills for a crappy house and basically living on each month on that pay. He could happily have drug addicts and so on as neighbours if thats all he can afford cuz he has no motivation either.I had a go kinda about this with him because I want a nice house, nice neighbourhood, be able to afford all my bills and not even have to worry about where the payment for my next bill comes from, I want to be finiancially secure in all areas...well he called me too high maintenance and we argued alot. He didnt like it or want to hear it because apparently I should leave him to live his life the way he wants...so I dunno, mention it to your bf explain how you feel and see what he says. Really if he wants you in his future he should try and respect your view and want to do his best so that he can provide for you.and yes i even said this to my bf...I let him off with it for now cuz we argue to much about this topic but you should definately mention it...just ask him what he wants to do for a career and take it from there.
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 March 2011): You know what my best friend was in the same situation. She pushed and pushed and pushed. He got a license, a car, and many jobs because of her. But he got laid off and fired a bunch of times and he wouldn't commit to go to school. She was with him for over 4 years. After she went to a university for a year she finally had to kick him to the curb. Don't be his mother. Take care of yourself and forget about him. If he can't do it on his own now he will never be able to. Trust me its a waste. Don't do what my friend did and stay for another 2 years you will regret it. Eventually you will just get sick of him, so end it now before it gets worse. Hope it all works out.
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