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writes:So I met a girl in class through a class project and we have talked here and there during school. I'm not madly in love or anything, just interested. But she just graduated and is currently out of the country on vacation. The night before her graduation I ran into her at the bars and we ended up spending the whole night together, nothing intimate, just some fun. By the end of the night I basically had her in my arms the whole time even when she went to go tell her friend goodbye, she came back to me. My friends said it was a good sign. But since she graduated, I haven't spoken to her, I don't even know when she will be back from her trip. But the part I'm wondering about is how should, if I can, maintain contact with this girl. I don't want to be clingy but I would like to maintain contact for who knows what will happen in the future.It's hard to tell if thats just how she is or if she was interested at all. I do have her phone number (her phone is broken until shes back from vacation) and are friends on facebook. she will be starting school again soon at a different school though. I plan on moving to the same city once I graduate at the end of this year. So I want to keep in touch so I can see her again.I want to avoid being clingy.I want to avoid being in the friend zone.I want to avoid seeming desperate.I am not very good at keeping in touch with people.Sorry for the wall of text.
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reader, 11muds11  +, writes (9 July 2010):
I like Xantic's answer because it's safe. It's a good time to contact, because no matter what happened on vacation, she's starting a new.
But you might also think of a quick note to her on her vacation. See if you can get her e-mail easily. Maybe write her one quick note on facebook hoping she's having a good time. Don't ask a question so there's so she doesn't feel forced to respond. Make sure you write it with no pressure to write you back. Make it light and not at the beginning of her vacation. If she writes back keep it light but engageing. I think it's good not to write back right away. Then when she gets back, give a quick note on facebook. Definately not in the first day or 2 when she gets in. Good luck.
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reader, xanthic +, writes (9 July 2010):
 Get in touch with her a week or so after she comes back, and keep the conversation light. As long as you're relaxed you won't come off as desperate, and she'll feel more at ease speaking to you.
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