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female
age
30-35,
*aybaybay_x
writes:He took my pin and number at a party like 6 months ago, and we talk on BBM. He called me once breifly. I find him attractive, and my feelings vary. Sometimes he puts ne off because he's so blunt and I find it rude at times. And other times he's quite sweet and gives nice advice and stuff. I think he's quite smart, and he's very good looking. But when I talk to him, it seems like he only wantex me on his BBM for his entertainment.He's quite suggestive at times and when I say I don't want to talk about things like that with you just yet.He says "we're grown, its nothing" Sometimes I'll joke around and flirt, but he'll take it to the next level and start trying to initiate "dirty talk" which is 1. Out of the question and 2. Something I feel like I should do over something like BBM with someone I don't know if I can trust.He'll compliment me and stuff and we'll have real conversations but one way or another, he'll start talking about "what he'd do with me" .I saw him one day and he said "you looked nice" and got happy when he learned I take the same route as him every morning...The problem is, I really don't want this guy to think I'm one of those easy girls that he probably talks to everyday about sex and gets a response. I feel like that's all he see's girls as, one day he said he don't believe believe in relationships at this age. and I've only ever been with one guy. and this guy is the only guy I speak to...One time when we were talking about when we met, he said he asked me for my pin because he wanted to "know me"....*shrug*Some advice please?
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 October 2011): The best thing you can do if you want something more than sex with him is stop responding to his texts. It's the only way he'll put you in the more serious category because he'll know he'll have to date you properly to get anywhere. Will he? Probably not because right now he is not interested in relationships but maybe whenever he gets in that mode he'll think of you.
Sometimes you just have to cut people loose when they aren't giving you what you deserve. Entertaining them at their level is not a compromise because it will just send them the message you are on that level and they will treat you as such.
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reader, aunt honesty  +, writes (16 October 2011):
 He is young and he is not wanting a relationship or looking for love. He is looking for some fun without the responsibilities and that is what sums that up. If you are hoping to have anything serious with this guy well then it is just not going to happen. He is being pretty straight forward and showing you that he wants something sexual and off course he can be sweet and compliment you at times because he is trying to win you over. If you are not wanting to have sex with him well then keep your distance from him and tell him you are not interested.
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 October 2011): Yes, here is some advice.
Find a nice boy who doesn't dirty talk to you and who actually wants to spend time with you as a person. This guy is only after sex and some entertainment.
Read this book, "He's just not that into you". Not only is this guy not into you, he's also treating you poorly (trying to dirty talk).
You need to create boundaries and respect yourself if you don't want to be seen as easy. He's not worth your time hun!
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