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writes:Well, I was friends with this girl called Helen. But when we fell out, she would really say some nasty things and really mess with your head so you always felt that you were in the wrong. You never really knew when she would blow up and get majorly angry so it was difficult to stay on the right side of her.Anyway, both of these friends are bi sexual and they met eachother and hit it off for a while until Helen started being distant with Gemma and not ringing her back or anything so Gemma was really upset because she didn't understand what was going on.One day last weekend, I was supposed to be going with Helen to a dinner and then going out for a drink but then my Mum told me she didn't want me going out so I rang Helen. She went completely angry at me saying that she hated me and that I'd ruined her night. She then said that she wished I would die. So I told her that I didn't phone her for abuse. But then I felt really bad so I spoke to my mum and went out for an hour or so.I went out and then Helen text Gemma to say that we were together and that's why she's been distant even though I told her not to mess around coz it wasn't true, she still messaged her and said this. Gemma rang me and she was very upset about it all so I told Helen that she'd really annoyed me and upset me for texting her and upsetting her so much lately so I was going home.I then found out that Helen in the past had been spreading rumours about my sister and had got with her ex boyfriend, days after they'd split up.So obviously, I don't want to be hanging around with someone who hurts my family and my best friend so I've put her on rejected list on my phone and blocked her texts. I have 15 missed calls from her. I feel quite bad for doing it, but I just don't want someone like that in my life. Did I do the right thing? she's told my friend that I've f*cked off when she needed me the most but she's never been there for me when I've needed her...
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reader, spn-jj  +, writes (5 September 2008):
you have definately done the right thing.....i am in a similar situation with a friend who is a complete liar, luckily for me all my friends know this and come to me whenever they hear anything.you've got to remember friends are supposed to be there for you in the bad times as well as the good times, she sounds completely selfish and you will never win with her, the fact you end up feeling guilty everytime you argue i can sympathise with as i do the same, but believe me you have nothing to feel guilty about - this just proves you are a good friend and take into consideration her feelings which she clearly takes for granted!!you will find out who your true friends are if they take her side, and to be honest if they do they will soon realise why you distance yourself from her!!dont give in to the missed calls, she will soon take the hint and hopefully find some other poor soul to latch on to!!
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reader, Boonridge McPhalify +, writes (29 August 2008):
 megabitch deleted-Bravo!
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 August 2008): No, I think you've done the right thing, you don't want someone as a friend who will mess around with your mind and your feelings and leave you feeling upset and confused all the time, someone like that is just selfish and you could really do without them. I think if you are friends with someone like that everything tends to become about them, conversations and just everything.
Good for you to have the courage to cut her off from your life, in my opinion it's the right thing to do. If she talks to you and tells you you are in the wrong and being unfair etc, just tell her all your reasons and if she doesn't apologise or show any remorse then you need to make some new friends.
Wish you the best of luck! :)
xx Hope xx
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