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writes:Okay, so I broke up with my ex a few months ago. We'd been on and off since fourth grade, and i still like him Some people told me he was spreading rumors about me, but he said otherwise. I was upset, and didnt want to break up with him just because of some rumors that may or not be true, so I told my parents it was because i overheard him telling some people mean and cruel things about me. Of course, i didnt hear him say anything. Nonetheless, he asked me out again. I wanted to say yes, but my parents disaprove of him now because of what i told them. If i get back together with him again, my parents will ask me why after he "did such mean things" but I dont want them to know I lied... What do I do????
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reader, Fatherly Advice +, writes (28 July 2011):
 Oops, I thought I replied last night.
I wonder what happened.
Anyway the best way to approach this with your parents would be to admit that you made a mistake. You could just say that you found out later that that wasn't what he said. You really do need to keep your parents close. Being a teen is hard to do alone.
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reader, ButterFlyBucket4698 +, writes (27 July 2011):
ButterFlyBucket4698 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks Fatherly,I known it seems easy to say but harder to do, my parents are hard to come clean with, they expect so much out of me that it took years for them to be proud. I don't want to lose there love if being proud of me just over this.I known what your thinking, every parent is proud of there child, its not always that simply and I don't like hearing it.Do you have any other advise?
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reader, Fatherly Advice +, writes (27 July 2011):
Hey Butter Fly,You are pretty young to be suffering so much Drama. There are a few lessons to be learned here. First, trust your parents. No one loves and cares for you more than them. You should have talked to them before you broke up. Now you have created a barrier between yourself and your best help. You are going to need your parents advice for the next decade. You should probably come clean with them first. Then they can help you with this decision.Next, you have been friends with this guy for around 4 years and yet you don't trust him. All relationships are relationships of trust. You should not be friends with people who are not trustworthy. If you still think he said bad things about you then you don't trust him enough to be together with him again. If you don't believe the stories "some people" are telling then they should not be your friends.Quite frankly at your age teens are experimenting, they are going to make a lot of mistakes. I can think of a half dozen reasons a girl would tell another girl such a tale. Everything from jealousy to social positioning, and a lot of, "that's what I saw on TV". A wiser person will see through all this. That's why you need to be talking with your parents.FA
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