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writes:I've been single for a year now, and enjoy clubbing regularly,At the spot theres a DJ who really has made an impression on me.Hes not even mega anything, Not too cute just handsome enough - Dresses rather nicely though. We'd been making eyes, he'd play the songs I like, Random accidentaltouches as we walk past y'know all the Non-Verbal Flirting.Anyways I just couldnt get him off my mind these past few weeks so I got someone to introduce us finally.Things were soooo tense as We were both nervoustoo much build-up time and all that maybe.We got on and apparently were talkin for half an houreven though it felt like five minutes lol.I told my pal the whole conversation and she said it sounded like I wasnt stroking hisego and that I was making the poor guy nervous but I just didnt wanna comeacross as though i like him too much so I was playin it cool.Dunno If my nervousness was hidden well though you could also cut the sexual tension with a knife!!To be frank afterwards he went off with one of his 'fanslags'the girls are always trying to sleep with him and I know he sleeps around with them.He acted wierd after that I felt like I came across as tryna act smartbut I also just wanted him to know I'm not one of them.He seemed abit like he likes me but just cant be doing with the effortof wining me over Im guessing.i spoke with a cute guy who was chatting me up which made him super jelous.(even though he pretty much did the same to me and has done a number of times before)I don't want the whole thing to go nowhere, But I am sure that I don't want A ONE-NIGHT STAND.It will be too awkward to see him every time after a ONS.Hes not relationship material though and I don't really want a serious relationship either.Confusing, I realise. I suppose I am trying to avoid the repeptitive sillyness of both serious relationships and the shallowness of one night stands. Something in between would be nice.I wish I could get the guy off my mind!!What should I do? thanks :)
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reader, Crazy-Candice +, writes (26 August 2009):
Crazy-Candice is verified as being by the original poster of the question I just cant share him with all those horny girls lol
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reader, Crazy-Candice +, writes (26 August 2009):
Crazy-Candice is verified as being by the original poster of the questionBaby duck thanks so much your advice has really meant alot, You're so clever. And you are right he does seem to think of himself as some modern day smooth 'babe magnet'I refuse to be one of his conquests, hopefully I can keep my head on straight even after a few drinks, only joking lol.You know, what you said about knowing yourself is the only thing one can do and throwing blame around never solves anything. i expect that he's messed enough girls heads up and that he likes the attention from women but doesnt necessarilyknow anything about treating a woman right....I've been rather lonely lately even if people never see that in me after all we are all lonely deep down, and I'll save my attention for someone who if i get involved with there won't be rumours everywhere and speculation. I'll save my atention for someone who doesn't have the whole club's female population rubbing their ego :PI'm gonna let this one pass me by even though i don't think theres really any chance of us being friends.This is gonna be hard for me. Everyone's been warning me against this guy so its made him even more of a stigma to me.I'm the sort of person who always always dont what i've been told NOT to do haha.Your advice was so insightfulhe is a shark hehe. thankyou again !! xxxxx
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reader, Crazy-Candice +, writes (24 August 2009):
Crazy-Candice is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks Immensely for the advice :) I'm slowly getting over this incredible attraction. I know, youre right, It might not be worth all those risks. He sleeps around even if he claims not to.
I don't think I can put myself on the line for this guy I'm too emotionally intense and all he wants is a one night stand.
I wouldnt be able to hold my head up high knowing he'd bonked me and messed with my head and heart :'(
To be honest your advice has really helped me gain some much needed perspective on this.
Gonna try and keep him as a flirty friend now if I can even if he thinks this is just the beginning.
I don't wanna be his toy and I can't smile knowing he is off with different horny chicks every day of the week while I am earning a hard living and thinking about him non stop.
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 August 2009): I like how you describing everything, fun to readthere is a thing in-between, it calls friends w/benefits. Guys like it alot, but for a girl... basically, it's a booty call, but goes both ways.If that's what you want... Be careful with protection though, a guy that sleeps around a lot, who knows if he is using condoms all the time or not.I had a situation like that long time ago,, we 'd meet just for sex, but as soon as sex was over, he had no interest in talking or hangout together, do something. After a while it felt very lonely to be w/him, no affection, just intercourse. See, guys like it a lot, but we girls are different. Good luck
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