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female
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36-40,
anonymous
writes:I am currently living with my boyfriend of nearly 2 years. I love him very much but I dont feel happy in this relationship anymore. A year ago, he cheated on me, he was seeing a girl on his university course. He told me he made a mistake and asked me to take him back. It was really hard to rebuild the relationship and restore the trust. A few weeks later I discovered messages on his phone, he was still meeting up with her. I tried to leave him, but he was very sorry, deleted her number and promised not to speak to her again. A couple of months later I found he had saved her number under a different name and was still texting her. Again, I tried to leave him, but he was very sorry and promised me he would never do it again. I love him so much and I am trying so hard to trust him again but I just dont. He doesnt make me feel sexy anymore because he doesnt really give me any sexual attention. I can lay naked next to him rubbing lotion into my body and he doesnt even look at me. He bought me a corset with suspenders and last time I wore it for him he asked 'how much did that cost again?' I said '50 pounds' and he laughed, and that was all the reaction I got for dressing up for him. I dont trust him, he doesnt make me feel sexy and it doesn't feel like he respects me, but he is such a nice guy, he tells me he loves me every day and I know he means it, we get on so well and he is my best friend. Im very confused. I dont know if this relationship is worth saving, or if I can trust him again. what can I do?
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 March 2007): You don't trust him and yet you are still in this relationship. I think you need to have a good talk to him and find out just what is going on in his head (not easy, this is a bloke!) and let him know just what you want. Be strong and if you don't get the response you want and deserve then i think i would consider ending the situation completly. Tell him you are off because you don't feel good in this relationship and he does nothing to make it any better. Tell him!
Take care
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reader, Reebe +, writes (29 March 2007):
 Hello there,
I think you've lost trust in your partner after lying about this girl on at uni. It will still take sometime to get this trust back.
This I'm sure is normal, you want some reasurrance that he still finds you sexy and attractive and it can be really disheartening when it feels like someone is going off you, not saying he is it just might feel that way.
You need to tell him how your feeling maybe even show him what you have written on here?
You seem to of got into a bit of a rut, sexually, and you need to work at making this exciting again and he has to work with you on this.
Try and give him a chance to say why he maybe feeling like this, it might not even be about you, it could be that he stills feels guilty about when he cheated on you.
Talk to him and try and resolve this, you could have a good relationship again if you can work through this.
Good Luck let me know how it goes.
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