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writes:hi, ive been thinking a bit lately. Have put a few problems on here and appreciate the advice. Actually no, I value the advice I've received. But one more for you agony aunts. I'm due to be married next year, sex life is non existent, ive never had an orgasm, my dog gets rubbed up more than me and now ive found i cant really talk to my fiancee about our problems, i find it easier to txt him as i hate confrontation and when i do have a problem, he gets extremley defensive and now im not sure this is a strong enough relationship ready for marriage. how do i talk to him and put it to him in such a way that im not sure we're marriage material... my head is wrecked from it... :(
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reader, 2old4this  +, writes (10 April 2007):
 Look. If you guys cant talk, then dont get married, period. Some people are looking to get married just for the sake of getting married. You obviously want a partnership and working relationship out of this. Take him aside and just ask him, "why do you want to marry me?". Make it fun and light hearted so he wont get upset. But, get the answers youre looking for. It's not that he loves you or youre pretty or you come from a nice family. Make him think about it. If he cant come up with anything, then you express your doubts. It should go from there.
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 April 2007): Oh my god, how could you go through with a marriage if you weren't entirely sure of the prospect. How long have you been with this man, that he can't even manage to give you an orgasm? Seriously, if there is no passion, move on. You've probably invested much into the relationship and that's hard to just walk away from, it's a lose for sure. But your probably missing out on something better, someone better. My advice is to try to talk to him, and if he gets too defensive tell him you need a break.
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