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writes:My concern is, I don't think my husband really love me because he never share his thoughs with me, we really sit together to converse, if I asked him questions or even directions, he is always hass on me which always leave unspeakable and always woundering what kind of husband I have. When he get off from work all he does is watch news or read his books, or laid down and sleep, any time I come next to him, he always have excuses, I'm tired, I'm reading, or I'm listening. If I tried to seduce him, he sometimes become mad on me, the only time we make love is when he wanted it and what time he wants it. He never kisses me in my mouth nor hug me everyday and we have kids, and he will never buy me anything. He doesn't care if I have a job or not, he never involve himself in my business neither think and say, you know what my wife is not working let me atleast give her some small amount of money just in case never in his life.---Question clarified from same poster:My concern is, I don't think my husband really loves me because he never share his thoughs with me, we rearlly sit together to converse, if I asked him questions or even directions, he is always hass on me which always leave me unspeakable and always woundering what kind of a husband I have. When he get off from work all he does is watch news or read his books, or laid down and sleep, any time I come next to him, he always have excuses, I'm tired, I'm reading, or I'm listening. If I tried to seduce him, he sometimes become mad on me, the only time we make love is when he wanted it and what time he wants it. We have sex only once a week and one time that's it. He rarely kisses me in my mouth nor hug me everyday and we have kids, and he will never buy me anything. He doesn't care if I have a job or not, he never involve himself in my business neither think and say, you know what my wife is not working let me atleast give her some small amount of money just in case never in his life. And everybody thinks he's the best because of his outside good attitude with them. He never help me understand my school projects.
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reader, dark-female  +, writes (30 July 2009):
Hi
I totally understand your situation. Its so difficult. My husband rarely says he loves me, the only time he says it is when he wants something. He gives me the ocasional hug but it is rare and when i go to hug him, its cold. I am starting to toughen up to it now. I am trying not to let things bother me now and i he does hurt my feelings, i keep it to myself. If i did try to talk to him, he would only say i am wrong anyway, so whats the point.
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reader, ketch  +, writes (18 June 2009):
Hi dear,
i have thesame problem u are facing right now. i met my husband when i was 17 and he was 27we started living together and a year later we got married. in the beginning of our relationship he was so nice to me, loved and respected me. but later we we started living together, he started mitreating me.parents where never in support of me living together with him without us getting married. So because i never wanted to loose him coz i was inlove with him. i went on and got married to him. a month later i got pregnant and gave him a son. during my pregnancy weeks, he was not nice to me and even beat me with my pregnancy. now i'm pregnant for our second child and he doesn't show me any love, he calls me fat big belly( i'm actually not fat and for my belly is supposed to be big because i'm pregnant) and does'nt want me arround him.
he does'nt kiss nor hug me and when we sleep in bed,he does'nt want me to douch or talk to him. we have no love life running among us coz is like he has just completely shot me out of his love life. We barely have sex and when we do, is also when he wants it and he makes sure he is fast about it. so i can say we have no romance going on.
i've heard many people addvising u to put ur husband down and talk to him calmly. it's also the same think i have been doing with my husband, but each time i approach him about the issue, he will shout at me and tell me he does'nt wanna hear anything about it. Sometimes i even feel like his cheating on me, but i can't prove it.
i'm just 20yrs and i wonder if this how i'm gonna live the rest of my life.
So right now i don't think i have any other advise for u coz both of us have thesame situation and i don't even know how to deal with mine.
i just wish u all the lock"""
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 November 2008): I think you deserve alot better especially emotionally. My suggestion to you is to get out of this relationship.
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 October 2008): I can understand why you feel that way.
You can't jump into conclusion he doesn't love you. Maybe there are things that trouble him and he doesn't want you to worry?
I think you two should sit down and talk about this.
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