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*arahwolf
writes:hey I am 19 and still a virgin and well Ihave never had an orgasm. Well I think I have never had an orgasm i have been turned on and wet but no mind blowing pleasure or anything, I have tried to mastubate and to use toys and to masturbate / use toys whilst reading really dirty books but nothing makes my bones melt, I have heard an orgasm is ment to be amazing maybe I have had one and it is just not that good but I don't think I have, can anyone help or give me any advice?
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reader, sarahwolf +, writes (3 April 2010):
sarahwolf is verified as being by the original poster of the questionthanks, that all help, i was really worried for writing this as i thought i would get embarrising answers or mocking or something but you have all been nice and supportive and i hope it helps
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reader, BettyBoup +, writes (1 March 2010):
 Hi there. It sounds like you have never actually had an orgasm. As most people will tell you, you will know when you've had an orgasm. An orgasm is when you reach the height of excitement, the muscles in your vagina contract and spasm uncontrollably, and your brain sends endorphins round your body. This feels like a wave of pleasure running from your vagina around your whole body. You will know when you have had an orgams because afterwards you will feel extremely satisfied and your sexual desire will drop straight after.It is a very short, very intense, very pleasurable experience, normally lasting a few seconds. You can feel it building for a while before and you will feel euphoric afterwards.While its true that some orgasms can be not that great, like a bit of an anticlimax, you will know you've had one because the build up feeling just dissappears and you will feel relief.I'd suggest just keep trying what you're doing. For some people it takes a while to reach sexual maturity and to fully know how their body works. You say you use books. Have you tried just simply fantasising witn your eyes closed? Just let yourself drift off whilst masturbating, don't focus on the end result and just see what feels good for you. Can you think of anything that gets you horny and makes you feel hot? A particular encounter or scenario or guy you like? Just think about that and give yourself loads of time.Another tip is to have a long, hot bath and try it after that because this will make you feel cleansed and it will relax your body and mind. I think orgasms can be very psychological for women.Hope this helps :)
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 March 2010): masturbation works mainly the same way for every girl - the clitoris. if you cant locate it, its the "ball of skin" as i like to call it, at the top of your vagina on the OUTSIDE. not the inside. slide your hands down your vagina from the top of the lips.. and you'll feel it.. and it will feel nice. now youv found it, play around with it. toys that vibrate will be the best sort, as the stimulation is what eventually makes you orgasm. rub it slowly and gently, then when you feel yourself heating up, get faster and maybe harder but not too hard as it can be very sensitive. do whatever feels good.. theres no manual or instruction guide on how to do it, because its different for everyone. what i just said is just what works for me. i like to lie on the bed with my legs open, as if im having sex or my guy is going down on me. then i rub with my finger, using vaseline can be good.. or doing it in the bath.. and i basically just experiment with what feels good. just have a touch and a feel.. its your own body so only you will know what you like. hope this helps.
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reader, Moo's Mum  +, writes (1 March 2010):
 Are you stimulating your clitoris as well as using toys? Personally I can not achieve orgasm vaginally I can only have one with clitorial stimulation and yes when it happens it does feel pretty amazing. I don't think you could mistake it for anything else or not notice it.
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