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writes:i came back from overseas, where i met this man. to be honest, my first impression of him was that he'e a complete idiot/douchebag. but, as you get to know people, they dont seem so bad. we were in a military environment where he was my officer, but it didnt stop him from inviting me to his room several times or running his hand up my leg. though i refused his advances, i felt somewhat pleased that he made them, dispite knowing he had done so to others my age. after arriving home, he told me that i am an amazing woman and that he was and still is attracted to me... he is in his 40s with a wife and kids. talking to friends about it, they suggested that i break contact with him, but i find that i cant. we talk on most days, sometimes innocently, but usually not. he still makes advances and i still refuse them, but im finding that dispite not wanting to admit it, i feel attracted to him, too.i assume im just some sort of ego boosting passtime for him, but recently i've found myself thinking about him alot. i dont know why, exactly, i dont paticularly want a relationship with him or anything... i guess im just intruiged. im quite confused about all this. help? what should i do?
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 August 2010): Well we always think we know people by looking at them, that's where the expression "judging a book by it's cover" comes from. But until you get to know them, you never really know what they're like.
If you don't feel comfortable with him touching you or keep inviting you to his room, all you have to do is say NO. Just one word can do so much. You feel happy with male attention he is giving you, and because you are falling for him you still have sensations of love towards him regardless that he is a player and a cheat.
Perhaps you like the idea of a bad boy in your life, although it's not the best thing, and your mates can find you someone better.
Your intrigued with the idea of love, or gaining male attention. I think you should go out with your friends and flirt with other males, then you may find someone that gives you the right ego boost, and then you may form a reationship from that.
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reader, tennisstar88  +, writes (22 August 2010):
 Once a douche bag always a douche bag, he's 40 with a wife and kids flirting with someone who is old enough to be his daughter. Too many red flags for me to count. You were overseas and then you came back, so how long ago was your last relationship or hook-up? I take it as you like the attention but where it's coming from is all wrong. Listen to your friends, before your his mistress and no one wants to be the "other girl".
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