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anonymous
writes:I have dated my girlfriend for about 10 months now as my first serious relationship, but I don't feel like I love her. I don't see any other girls as attractive at the moment but everytime we meet she just falls for me more and more.I just don't know how to become "just friends" with her without breaking her heart. I don't wnat to keep lieing with this as I feel I am making things worse by waiting, but can't bring my self to say anything. I don't wanna hurt my friend by lieing to her, nor by crushing her world.
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 August 2010): I agree with everything the guy below said. If you're 13-15 then you're around the same age as me (I'm 15) so I'd guess this girl is our age too. When you're a teenager breaking up with someone you really like is never easy, it always hurts. I know what you want is to hurt her as little as possible but to be honest it's inevitable. It'll hurt her when you end it and for a while afterwards but if you really don't love her then it's what's best for both of you; no one wants to be in a sham relationship. You need to be honest with her and end it soon before things get out of hand. Don't give her any rubbish about loving her but it not working because that's giving mixed messages. Don't crowd her once you've done it, she'll need space and time to get over it so it's best that you keep a low profile- as the guy below said being 'just friends' after you've been together for 10 months rarely works. I know you're just thinking of her feelings, which only makes you a decent guy, but you'll be doing the decent thing by telling her the truth. Good luck
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 August 2010): It's simple. You can't. If you care for her at all, the best thing to do is to break it off now, as carefully as you can. And then leave her alone for a long time. Friendship never really works in the long run. It only gets in the way of new relationships. I don't mean you have to be unfriendly towards her if you happen to bump into her, but don't try to keep a friendship going.
Clean breaks are always best if at all possible!
my 2 cents.
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