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female
age
41-50,
anonymous
writes:re-united or nothi, my emotions are all over the place at the moment and therefore felt the urge to write to cupid to have a litle light shed on this situaton.I am now 29.I knew this guy 10 years ago. One night he walked me home from work as he didn't want me walking on my own. He tried to kiss me which I politely turned down by giving him my cheek. We were never 'the very best of friends' but anytime we were in each others company there seemed to be a likeness between us.A few months later I moved in with a girl and he had a casual relationship with her. This girl got pregnant and I was with her the night she went into labour.He then arrived at the hospital and I felt a very strong feeling that I wanted to be with him. (His relationship with the girl was over at this stage). I did not do anything about my feelings at that time.A few months later he gave me a lift back from her house and he was stuck for someone to baysit. I offered to do it on the basis that it was ok with both him and her. It was and yet again I felt a connection where I wanted to kiss him. Again nothing done about it.Our lives moved on. I got married and separated, he is still single. I bumped into him one night. I gave him my number and suggested we meet for coffee someday because I needed to move on somewhere else that night with my friend and culdn't stay talkng to him.About a week later, he text me. He called over to mine and we watched a dvd and had a very passionate kiss.About 3 weeks later we went out together, had an amazing time and for the first time in my life I felt a kiss that absolutely swept me off my feet. We were in public when this kiss happened so I kised for a while then pulled away but still stayed in his arms while we were cheek to cheek and he very gently kept stroking my neck and shoulder. It was very clear that both of us were feeling the attraction, it was very intense....He told me that night that he really enjoyed himself.He also told me that his dads anniversary mass was on next day and I went that the following morning. He seen me there, I did not speak as i did not want to put him on spot explaining who I was so I text him when I left and said my thoughts are with you.Texting continued and a few days later he text to say that he thinks I'm looking for a relationship and that hes very happy with his life as it is.Since then we have met about 3 times, to be honest for short times and for a kiss.The last time we met like this we came very close to going a bit further however because of his statement about not wanting a relationship and because I am feeling very strong feeings betweenus I told him that I could not 'do it' because I like him too much. He smiled at me and said I suppose thats as good a reason as any not to do it. He told me that he doesn't trust woman anymore. I told him he was worth more than he puts himself out there to be. That was about 2 weeks ago.By surprise he text me on Christmas Eve and wished myself and my son a Happy Christmas to which I replied appropriately.I then went to the pub he works in 2 nights later with my aunt to which he greeted me with a big hello and approx. 5 mins later he came in and bought us both a drink and stayed for a few mins talking.He then went to one side of the bar and winked over at me. I winked bck with a huge smile to which he smiled back and then walked away to carry on with his work. He later walked by our table again and winked again at me, then the next time he discreetly gave me a thumb up.When he was standing beside us talking I felt that we both wanted to be close to each other and when I came home that night I wanted to be with him.I am 29, he is 41... I feel that we would be an amazing couple and the attraction between us is one like I never felt before.Please advise... help! I know we should be together but not sure whats up with him.....
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