I dont' know if I should worry about his fidelity or hope that it was just because he had been so unhappy.

A female age 51-59, anonymous writes:

I am trying to make a decision and it's hard. My BF is recently divorced, I know he loves me, he tells me constantly and if he forgets, he'll call me to apologize for not saying it earlier. He is always saying he wants this to work, he'll do anything he can to keep me etc.. problem is, when he was married (9 years) he cheated the entire time, from their first year of marriage, different woman throughout the years. He says she never suspected and to this day, does not know. He says he did it because she didn't like sex much and the last 2-3 years they didn't have any and it never seemed to bother her or come up in conversation. they obviously never communicated which was another reason. Its hard for me to beleive she wouldn't suspect anything, ecsp. if they hadn't for years. My worry is, although we have great sex and communication, he is constantly saying "I still think about you even now", "i still love you just as much now", "i can't beleive i still look foward to spending time with you". ITS BEEN 5 MONTHS!!!! why wouldn't he? I'm worried he obviouslly gets bored easy if he's amazed that he's still into me. I dont' know if I should worry about his fidelity or hope that it was just because he had been so unhappy.

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