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writes:So I have been seeing this guy now for just over two months...i know it may still be too early to tell but i have no clue if he is interested in me. We have only seen each other 3 times in 2 months. He texts me all the time but never actually calls. He says he wants to see me more and get to know me but there has not been alot of effort made to do so. I started to really like this guy we seemed to click and had alot of fun together. So i dont know if i should just ask him if hes into me, wait for him to come around or just move on??? i have been out of the dating scene for awhile now so im really lost.
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reader, So_Very_Confused  +, writes (11 July 2011):
 he's telling you with his behavior how he feels about you. 3 dates in 2 months is not a lot... a man that is in to you wants to see you as often as he can...
if you ask him how he feels, you will put him on the spot and he may say what he thinks you want to hear...
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 July 2011): You'll know how interested a man is by the amount of effort he makes to SEE you..it's not more complicated than that. It's not something you have to ask him.
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reader, sammy1986  +, writes (10 July 2011):
first off i would find out if he is actually single twice in 3 month is not a lot to see someone if they like ya i would just ask him out right if he is into you or if he,s seeing someone else its the best way to find out
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reader, Abella +, writes (10 July 2011):
 I don't feel good about his reticence either. What exactly is he thinking? A guy needs to show way more interest than this.
Three times in two months? Where is this guy, travelling the world in a submarine? On a space mission to Mars? Stuck on a long posting in Antartica? Not in prison or his texting might have been discovered by now. (i am not serious about the last one)
But seriously? He wants to get to know you?but never calls? And chooses to take you on so few dates?
Have you visited him at his home? Are you certain he is really single?
He sends you many texts- that does not prove there is not a lady in the background, sadly.
There are platonic friends and platonic acquaintances who one does text. And do nothing to ever suggest it is anything but pure friendships.
And there are the flirty occasional text we may send to our guy. And were we not in a relationship then that texting may be increased.
But by going out on dates he has allowed to to gain an impression that more might be possible.
Do not respond to his texts for a week, and see if that spurs him on. If he calls within that week, then let him know how you feel about three dates in two months. He may be willing to try - give him one month to do so.
If he has not responded after a week to no response to any texts then yes, I would suggest that you move on. In that instance I would suggest that he is just treating you as a text buddy. And you do Deserve far better than that.
I hope it works out.
But I fear he has been wasting your time.
Do some extra nice things for you. Arrange to meet your girl friends for a meal. Let them know you are interested in dating again. Join a nice mixed group that does good deeds in the community. (never know who you might meet there)
Book a foot massage and facial.
A new good perfume might be a good way to spoil you.. Some nice bath products. Spoil yourself in ways he has not over the last two months.
You do deserve to be treated better,
Best wishes,
Abella
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reader, mollieliz215 +, writes (10 July 2011):
first of all, never ever wait for any man, because if he was really worth it you wouldnt have to wait.
he probably doesnt call you because he doesnt like to talk on the phone. im the same way no matter how much i like someone.
if hes not making the effot to make plans with you, then you try to make plans with him yourself.
when you hang out, try to gently bring up the subject of dating and see where it goes. for example, "this is kind of random, but what do you think of me as? like a friend, or...?"
good luck!
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reader, Anonymoussweertheart +, writes (10 July 2011):
 k i know im young but i think i get this. he seems shy, maybe he feels uncomfortable on the phone so hed much rather see u in person which is great! im pretty sure hes into you sounds like hes just as confused if ur into him or not. if ur brave enough, confront him on how you feel. if not just go on a few more dates and i bet you'll both open up alot more :)
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