| A
male
age
30-35,
anonymous
writes: Hi all! I've got question that bugging me quite sometimes. How should i start?! You see, there is one guy that i interested with but how could i tell if he's into me. The reason that he manage to grab my attention is because i onces notice that he stare at me several time and quite amout of time at the bus station when i go to campus (i go to my classes most of the time by bus). And when i look back at him, he was like looking other places. I'm very sure he is staring at me because i just constantly aware people or little things that happen around me(i know it sound weird). Ever since that "incident", i saw him at the bus stop a few time attending classes. And again, this time i gave him a smile when he look at me. Surprisly he smile back. Is he checking up on me or just playing nice? I grown up in asian socity, whereby it is rude not to be polite with elder people or even stanger. I have no idea about this? I admitted that when i like someone, i just want to know more about them. Is it normal, especially he's a guy?! Or just out of curiosity? Arrrrg, it's killing me inside!! My problem is that we hardly even meet in campus because we are in diffrently cource. Althought we still basically in the same science faculty. We don't have the common subject this semester, and we don't have same classes. I am thinking to make the first move, but somehow i can't move myself and walking toward him. Why?! How hard could it be?! I want to start a conversation with him and i don't have the gud. When i finally brave enought to talk to him and (you know what) i end up couldn't pronounce even a simple "hi". Gosh! Sometimes i feel myself a loser. Normally, i can talk to my friends with no problem. When it's comes to want to talk to him, i was nerve-wracking. There is times that he sitting alone in the cafe. I just miss the chance to speak with him. Jusk asking, how to talk normally to someone that we have interest without being awkward or uncomtable, Help ! In the pass, guys or girls just approched me by their own. I kind of a passive type of guy in a relationship until i meet this guy. My heart feel there is a connection between us(or that's just my own thought?!).On the other hand, my head tell me this is totally wrong and i feel guilty about fantasize him. Gzeeeeeee I have no idea how my Bf and Gf do it, maybe they have confidence and i surely lack of it. I want to improve my self-comfident to just take the first move, but how? Up until now, i still not sure he's sexuality. Is he str/bi-curious/gay?! I don't know! Any idea how to know he's sexuality? I hate myself having feeling toward guys. Can i somehow control it? I don't want to sound shallow to just have physical attraction, what i want is a healthy relationships. Sex is not a big deal in my life. Any suggestion or opinion would be deeperly appretiate. Thks P/s: My english/grammer/spelling is horrible. Ask me if there is any part you don't understand.
View related questions:
confidence Reply to this Question
Share |
Fancy yourself as an agony aunt? Add your answer to this question! A
male
reader, anonymous, writes (16 June 2010): Simply approach him at the bus stop (preferably when he's alone, but not necessarily) and say "Hi!". It's not like getting acquainted with other people means you definitely have a crush towards them. Simply approach him and start a conversation. It may feel awkward, but I'm pretty sure he won't stab you or anything. Just talk and who knows, you two might end up being close friends or maybe even lovers. All you need to do is start a conversation. After all, you might not even like him. But, as I already said, you two might as well end up being really close.
A
male
reader, anonymous, writes (10 June 2010): I would say go for this guy if you are interested with him. Talk to him and be his friend. Get to know him better! To aviod awkward conversation, you should pratice before having conversation with him. It's better for you to follow the flow. Even he's stright guy, you still can be close friends right. Take things slow and see how that lead you
...............................
|
