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writes:hi so i am still struggling to move on from my ex boyfriend. we have been broken up for 8 months now. and i still cant seem to let go of him. i have dated other guys and i have kissed another guy since him but i just cant let him go. i loved my ex with all of my heart. but i really just need to move on now because i wotn let myself care about anyone else... i pray every night to wake up with no more feelings for him but the feelings still remain... i have tried doing things i like, keeping busy, and blocking him out of my life. but nothing has worked. PLEASE i am begging you to help me... because i dont know how much longer i can deal with this ache in my heart... thank you.
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reader, Waiting for an angel +, writes (7 August 2010):
well we're on the same boat im still deeply in love with the father of my 5 wk old baby girl. hes done & said dirty things yet i still find myself crying over him. i would say give it time & yes show yourself and the world how beatiful and wonderful you are even if you dont believe it. im sure you'll be ok but if you need to talk feel free to send me a private message
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reader, luckyirishlass  +, writes (7 August 2010):
i went through a similar situation 3 years ago. i was dating a guy, and we loved eachother very very much, then out of the blue he broke up with me. im not lying it took over a year to get over him. he was my first love, and we had fabulous times together. it reali broke my heart, but the funny thing is little by little my heart started to mend. i knew this because i started to finnaly like different guys, and found myself less crying and more angry at him. like how dare he leave ME! You are doing the right thing by keeping busy. if ur in highschool why not join an extra activity?? i know its cléche'd but i joined my gym, and running and lifting weights reali exhausted me to the point were i was too tired to think about him. Another think i did to help myself was dress up. on the days ur feeling particulary low. get a bath going, light some candles, or take a trip down to the salon. Spoil yourself and make urself even MORE gorgeous than u already are. Portray urself as the strong confident gal u are, and strut your stuff. Who knows when theres a brad pitt around the corner... ;)im with a different guy now that treats me with love and respect. and i have friends who love me. start loving urself and everyone else will notice how incredible u are :)
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 August 2010): The thing about emotional pain is this: you never know when the pain will cease. I have been where you are as I had my heart broken about two years ago. The guy treated me so bad and then ended the relationshp with me to go back to his ex/baby's mother. I don't care to get into all the other dirty details of what he did to me, but it was horrible in my opinion. I found that I could not sleep through the night--I would wake up having anxiety attacks, I couldn't eat, my hair was falling out, on my lunch break, I would go into the restroom and cry for an entire hour, I couldn't enjoy the holiday season around that time...I was just miserable. I found myself having to take a cab home after work because, I just couldn't keep my emotions in check while on the long trip on on the public bus (yes...it was that bad). Finally, I checked myself into therapy, bought relationship self help books, prayed, sought advice from a spiritualist and as time went on, I started to get better and better. It took me a little bit over on year to get by ex out of my system (we only dated on and off for about 8 months) and I can say today that I after all of that drama, I am over him, I don't love him, I don't think about him, I don't feel the urge to contact him...NOTHING. I don't care about him anymore. Since that time, he has written a letter to me requesting that I contact him and how sorry he is and so on and so forth, but I have not!! LOL..LOL...I don't care about him and have no desire to be with him, to be friends..NOTHING. I forgive him, but I have moved on.
So..with that being said, it will take alot of time honey for your healing with not happen overnight. It's really a dangerous thing to love hard...very dangerous. I can only hope that you don't hurt yourself and please, DO NOT DATE OR GET INTO A RELATIONSHIP WITH ANYONE ELSE until you have healed and do not have any emotional or mental baggage concerning your ex. DON'T DO IT. Get into therapy, buy self help books, pray and by all means, don't contact him. This is another thing that helped me....I didn't contact my ex although it was very, very, very hard. I even changed my home and cell phone numbers, I changed my email address and blocked his, eventually when my lease was up I moved as he had started to just show up at my apartment unannounced on several occasions. I did what I had to do to get over the guy and you will need to do the same.
Peace be with you and if you need anymore emotional support, just send me a private email.
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