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male
age
30-35,
anonymous
writes:During the start of my junior year in high school I saw this girl in one of my classes. I thought she was really cute at the time and she would stare at me sometimes too. Its really corny but It sort of felt like love at first sight I guess. All I knew was I had to get to know her. I've never really been good at talking to girls especially if I'm attracted to them. I decided I would try to speak to her at least once per day. It worked for the most part and she started to talk to me more and more.Then during the school's winter vacation, I have a close friend who I generally feel I could talk to about anything. She asked me if there was anyone I had a crush on and I told her who it was. I soon found out my friend was friends with her and she sort of told her that I liked her. I felt so humiliated and stupid because I think it is weak hearted to get someone else to tell someone how you feel about them. I decided I would explain myself the next day and tell her what happened. She laughed and said everything was okay, but she was not allowed to date so it did not matter anyway. She said I can be her friend and left it at that. We sort of drifted apart after that incident but after a couple of weeks she would completely go out of her way just to come and say "hello" to me. I thought it was really strange, but I enjoyed it because it made me smile to know she was talking to me again.Then it all suddenly went wrong from there. I saw her during my lunch period in the library. I overheard she had a cold and just an overall bad day. I felt really bad and I wished I could cheer her up. I gave her a rose on Valentine's day. My school was selling them on that same day. I remember approaching her while she was alone with one of her friends. I remember saying exactly " You never said you couldn't accept flowers" When I gave to her she seemed really surprised and happy to receive it from me. However the next week,every time she saw me, she avoids me, like if im walking down the hall she will move away from me as far as possible. (It's really strange). it's like am highly contagious with a deadly disease.I think there is nothing I can do which sucks because I think about her every day. I don't know how I should feel anymore. I try to become interested in other girls but but it never works. She's all I think of. What makes it even worse is that she is named after a word which I hear very often so even when I do try to forget about her I am consistantly reminded of her. I feel like I should say something, but what's the use? It probably would make it worse. Am I insane?
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reader, punk  +, writes (16 December 2010):
 This girl you're talking about is probably having mixed feelings.
I'm a girl and i'll tell you this from personal experience, once you get to know that a guy likes you, you'll like the part where he's chasing you no matter how or what the guy looks like.
After he asks you out and you decline, he still stays in your head, maybe at the very back of your mind but he sure does.
Listen, try this. Now you start pretending like she doesnt exist. I know it'll be hard but just try. Maybe for a week or two. See if theres any change.
If there isn't, well then you should just move on. Cause then its obvious that she's a downright mean-o.
And heartbreakers dont deserved to be chased.
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