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writes: OK, some people might say I shouldnt be feeling this way because I'm in my early 30's. But I cant help it. Over the past 2 and a half years, feelings for someone have grown inside me, and I really cant take it anymore. Lets call her 'L' We started out as co-workers with small social banter back and forth, and ultimately came to be friendly. I brought up enough courage to tell her in July how I felt about her, and she was a little surprised to hear this from what I can tell. But we shared the same stance on this: We dont date people we work with. Since then, we have socialized at work and away from work, doing a wide array of things together..becoming friendlier. This can be similar to dating, but I dont want this to be ultimately perceived as 'friend activities'. During this time my feelings have strengthened for her. And short of either of us moving to a new job, I dont know what to do. Do I stay the course and remain her friend, and persue a new employer in order to see if something can come of this? This crush really is killing me, and I dont want to be like Ducky in Pretty in Pink.
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 November 2006):
Can you shift departments or work locations?
If not, find some possible outside job offers. Dont accept anything or tell her that you have a good line on anything, but then go her and tell her that you are ready to leave so that you can date.
You'll find out from her response if she is that interested. I have a feeling that you may be in the friends zone.
After all, work dating is not unheard of... she may have been hiding behind that excuse.
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