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writes:My high school just held their 30th class reunion. I was a no-show because it occurred to me that I have done nothing with my life that would impress anyone and you know, reunions are all about showing off your kids, your careers and your life-long accomplishments. I don't have a college degree. I married young, I didn't have children. My husband and I are currently separated and he lives in our 3-bedroom house because I was the one that wanted out. I had a good job in management, but got laid off a few years ago and now I just do secretarial work for an accounting firm. I guess it's normal to take stock of your life during a highschool reunion, but I wasn't prepared for the depression that followed. I have nothing to show for my life and I wonder what my purpose has been. I have a small circle of friends, I know I am a caring person, but I feel like I have accomplished nothing great in my life and now it's half over with. I don't own a house, I don't have three degrees after my name. I don't have an exciting career. I don't have any kids to enjoy or show off. I didn't write that novel I always dreamed about (though I really don't have the discipline to do so anyhow), I'm not an accomplished musician, poet, chef or artist. What am I here for?....I am feeling very low about how my life. It just all seems so pointless. I know I should go to counseling, but this is a very small town and there is no such thing as professionalism. Someone always blabs your business. So you guys are my only hope. Has anyone ever gone through this? Reply to this Question
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reader, flower girl +, writes (18 July 2007):
 You have accomplished coming this far in your life, so ok your marriage did not work out it happens and you are not all that happy in your job, so like YummyMummy says you need to do something about it now.
I'm currently on meds for depression and it makes a world of difference to your self asteem and your get up and go, so i would suggest going to see your doctor, and if other people find out so what you are doing something to better your life and it's none of their business.
Take care.xx.
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reader, YummyMummy +, writes (18 July 2007):
 Ok, so you haven't made anything of your life so far. How about changing that from now on. If you feel in a hole in your job- get out and get a new one. Get yourself on the dating ladder if you feel ready etc.
It's only ourselves who can change our lives for us.
How about you start by starting to write the novel you mentioned?
It sounds as though you are suffering from depression. Could you go see your doctor and maybe get some help with coping. I've been on medication for depression and it really does help.
If you don't trust people in your town not to blab could you go to the next one?
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