A
female
age
30-35,
anonymous
writes:So I got out of a long term relationship about 2/3 months ago now. I went through a lot of soul searching and i'm feeling better than ever. I'm not completely over my breakup but i've got to a point where I would never get back with my ex now and know that i'm in a much better place.Since I was 18, i've been in 2 long term relationships. I'm now 24. I've always been a very traditional woman in never really wanting to hook up or have flings and instead always wanted a relationship with a guy i see a future with. I've now found myself single, very happy and speaking to a few guys who are all pretty awesome. There's a guy I like who I met for the first time the other day but he's just not my type personality wise. I went to his house and we got on as friends and i'm definitely attracted to him and could imagine a friends with benefits kind of senario happening. I get the feeling he speaks to a lot of women but he does seem really interested in pursuing me cause i'm keeping I think he probably thinks i'm playing hard to get- but it's just that I have other priorities right now which i'm spending most of my energy on like working out, working, etc.But as mentioned i'm new to this whole thing and I really don't want to get hurt. I just want to have some fun and live my early twenties! any advice on how to approach this kind of situation?
View related questions:
friend with benefits, my ex Reply to this Question
Share |
Fancy yourself as an agony aunt? Add your answer to this question! A
female
reader, aunt honesty  +, writes (16 August 2018):
 Approach it with caution and make sure it is really what you want. You need to be very strong emotionally to enter in to a sex only friendship and not develop some sort of feelings. Usually one person ends up getting really hurt in these situations.
A
female
reader, anonymous, writes (15 August 2018): Sweetheart, I caution you to think long and hard here. I did the same thing. It's now 5 years later and I'm in love with him but he'll never love me. Even after all this time, I am still just a good lay to him. It's hard not to get attached. You're going to end up devastated. It just isn't worth that kind of PAIN, emotional devastation & loss of self worth.
...............................
|
