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writes:OK, im a gay girl, just out of a year long on off relationship with my best friend. we're hardly talking now and im still in love with her and have to see her everyday in school is killing me. she cheated on me a month ago at a party, and was going out with this guy (shes bi) until 2 days ago when he split with her, they didnt actually see eachother during that time. anyway, its torture for me having to see her everyday at school, but now i think one of our mutual friends who is also bi has fallen for me, she keeps suggesting things like how she cant wait for me to get over my last relationship and fall for "someone else". Im not attracted to her at all, and the last thing i want it another realitonship with a best friend right now. I dont know what to do, i still love my ex and wish more than enything that she still loves me and will ask for another chance with me, but i dont know what to do about my other friend. im really dependent on her atm, she keeps me out of misery and deistracts me from my ex but i dont want her having the wrong message, what should I do? please please help me xxx
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 December 2009): ok if you still love your ex u should talk to her. tell her that not talking to her makes u crazy. u dont have to tell her you want her back. just be friends with her for now. and as for your other friend u will have to tell her you love her as a friend. but tell her how she makes you feel better in a good way for she will still want to be friends. hope this help:)
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 December 2009): since your friend, the one you think has fallen for you hasn't said anything about how she feels about you, you shouldnt worry about being friends with her as long as you are careful, never lead her on, dont make her think in any way she has a chance with you if she really doesnt, make sure she knows you are still in love with your ex and that you'd get back with her if she wanted to or if you jus want to be alone, make sure she knows that. also make sure you tell her how good of a FRIEND she is, how you like hanging out with her and how you really appreciate her as a FRIEND. just being honest is the best thing you can do, she'd get the right message that way plus she'd get that she has no chance with you and she'd still be your friend. As your ex girlfriend goes, cheating is cheating, doesn't show respect, care nor love, why would you wanna be with someone who doesn't respect you or love you? i think you should give it a second thought. i hope you find my advice useful, i just wanna help, good luck
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reader, shaz064eva +, writes (19 December 2009):
I have sort of been in your situation, I thik the best thing to do is ask your friend out straight is she fancy's you, it's better to get it over and done with and at least then you can process the truth and not what you think you know. And about you ex at school, it's the same with every teenage boy and girl, if you still like her ask to get back to being friends and see where it goes from there but if you want to get over her, try dating going out with other people and have fun, it doesn't have to be a date but once you start getting out there you might want to date othere people again.
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