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writes:Me in my cousin were sooo very close. We were each other best friend. But I started having feeling for her, and naturally confessed to her. However, she freaked out, saying it was wrong because we were of the same family. Now, i'm hurt and always crying. She isn't talking to me anymore... it's being 4 months already... i can't stop crying... help... help... help...
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 August 2009): i know how much it hurts when something like this happens. i cant even begin to explain how to move on, it seems not possible sometimes. but regretting telling her isnt going to change anything. lets be real, it isnt going to be completely normal again because it will always be in the back of your minds. but explain to her that you want to just start from scratch and hang out, see what she says. i know shes your cousin, but if she wont bother then you have to leave it and let her come to you.. despite caring you have to think about yourself; she will eventually come round. AAJ.
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 August 2009): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionDear agonyauntj, I did just that I tried to talk to her, saying that I just love her and don't mind staying friends and be just like before. I just want my friend back... I regret so much telling her how I feel...
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 August 2009): hello, what a tricky situation. sometimes when you become close to someone, you begin having feelings for them, and some of us tell people how we feel, some of us keep it to ourselves. part of me says well done on being brave enough to tell the truth.. the other part of me thinks it may have been a mistake.i dont know the ins and outs of it, but it sounds like your cousin doesnt feel the same. this is hard to accept because when you like someone it hurts to find out they dont feel that way too, but you have to try to accept it. i want you to think about something for me, do you feel it would be better to have your cousin back as a friend if nothing else? if this is the case, then you need to speak to her and tell her that despite what you told her, you want things to go back to normal between you. obviously this will be hard, but if you do think its better to be friends rather than nothing then you must be willing to try. also, no matter how hard it seems at the moment, like you say youve been crying alot, you will eventually move on. even as an agony aunt, i cant tell you exactly how to do this, because really, only you know how to do it. you just have to keep positive. good luck. AAJ.
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