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writes: I have a a problem and don't know what to do about it I have been married for 14 years and have children, I fell in love with my husband's heart he is so giving and wanted to take care of me I was not physically attracted to him physically, but he has just always given me anything I wanted. Everyone he meets become his friend and everyone loves him. Five years ago we went thur a time when we could not talk to each other I then went on to talk to his best friends wife, which led me to talking to her husband and led us into sleeping together. My husband found out and choose to stay with me and cut his ways with his friend, my husband also quit his job of 19 years to get away from all the shop talk, And moved down south to take on another job. we thought that the separation apart would do us some good, It is hard on our children because we only see him every two weeks for 3 days, but my problem is now that he is gone and not living with me I don't miss him,and i like the fact of not having to cook every night and iron cloths if i don't want I really don't miss the picking up after him and extra laundry, And sence then i have been talking to someone that i feel like we really click he is 6 years older but has no children I am very physically attracted to him an would really like to be able to be more than just friends, but i don't want to hurt my husband again, He still loves and wants to be with me I just don't think that my feelings are the same for him. Should i cut my ties? an move on or should i stick things out for the children? Which would have me leave my job that pays very well and can easliy support me and my 3 kids now,but wouldn't be likely that i get one like it down south. They have no idea why dad moved and quit his job and think that we are going to move with him as soon as our house sells I'm just totally lost should i go or not should i have feelings for a nother man ?
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reader, Toria +, writes (22 September 2006):
 IF you no longer have feelings for your husband then new or man or not you shouldn't still be with him for whatever reason, I know you think you are doing whats best and right for everyone but your not, if you cut your marriage you are giving your husband the chance to meet someone else that can love him the way he deserves to be loved, your children will be hurt but at the same time they pick up on everything and they will pick up on whats really going on between you and their dad, and you... why should you settle being with someone you don't love when you could be free to find someone that you do, if your going to leave your husband do it because it's right for you not because there is someone else in the picture.
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