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*runettechick
writes:Ok, i was goin out with my boyfriend for 4 years, about 3 months before we broke up i met a guy i known from school out clubbin i always really liked him and very attracted to him so i brought him back to my place (after lots to drink) and i had sex with him.... after that i would txt him but he wud seldomly reply to me and i dont know was it because he was not interested or was it that he knows my boyfriend well and felt guilty??? when i go out and see him, he seems interested and we talk and occasionally he'l ring or i will(when either of us are drunk)before this i had never cheated on my boyfriend until then but for a year i was unhappy with my relationship...couldnt even have sex with him or anything intimate. i broke up with my ex 2 weeks ago and i miss him (only because we were like bestfriends and i feel iv lost a friend..) now i am unsure whether i would get back with him or not?? or should i wait for someone who will make me feel like im on top of the world??? help...
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 December 2007): This if for you to decide.... you cheated on him... wouldnt you feel guilty being with him after knowing tht u were unfaithfull... i understand why u did it but at the end of the day no1 realli wants to know the inside details and reasons for why what was done was done.. if i was you... i would just walk away from both.... i know its hard but sumtyms tomake ur self happi in the end u have to suffer for while.... but otherwise get back wit ur bf and forget bout the guuyu like and just talk to him bout everythin thts happend and make sure tht this time things will be different n tht u wont have to be driven into cheating again!
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reader, blondechick +, writes (28 November 2007):
ok i think that u should definately not get back with your ex boyfriend...if u were unhappy for a year then i dont think ull be happy agin...as its only been 2weeks u need time 2 sort urself out and u miss him because he was part of ur life for 4 years of course u do its natural...give it 6 months and if u wanna gt back with him then give it a go... this other guy, i think perhaps he was afraid of ur boyfriend findin out...u should txt him and meet up!!!
good luck!!
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reader, chlez83  +, writes (27 November 2007):
Feel pity for the poor guy, your boyfriend. Let him deal with his broken heart and don't go complicating his his life just because you still need his company. What you did with the other guy is called satisfying a suppressed sexual desire which came out that day. It also seems that you easily fall in and out of love and after a while you would cheat on this other guy even if you got together. Don't be so sure he'd have easily wanted to sleep with you if he was sober. In my own opinion you should have taken things abit slower if you really wanted that guy coz you need to ask yourself, after the sex what next? You can't think straight when drunk and sex with alchol in the head is not the best optiion. Give the other guy some time and i think he's only interested in sex. Just move on and give your ex some time before trying to be friends, you'll cause him more hurt for now.
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reader, Rosalinda  +, writes (27 November 2007):
This is tricky.
Well, first off, I think you shoudn't go back with your boyfriend. You say it youself that you miss him 'only' because you were like best friends. You were with him for four years, so wanting to go back with him is a reflex. You were unhappy and that's enough of a reason to not to back together.
Now for the boy you like. Either he likes you and wants to start something with you but feels guilty about it, or then he just is randoml interested in you when he wants you. Play it sae and try to meet him more often and try to know him better, see if you have thins in common.
If he makes you feel special and he seems to like you back, keep on working on it.
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reader, Myspacestacex3  +, writes (27 November 2007):
I think you should get back with him. Does he know that you cheated on him? Because if he dont i think you should tell him.
I know how it feels to end a relationship and with that empty feeling in your stomach. It hurts it hurts really bad and i dont think anyone should have to go through that pain.
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