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writes:I cheated on my boyfriend after a year and 7 months in our relationship. I cheated last week and everything's out in the open. The guy I cheated with was my old friend. This was the one and only time we hooked up since being in a relationship with my parter. Me and my boyfriend now ex bf haven't been getting on for 5 months. He always said to me I need a good job so we can move in together, so we can go abroad etc but I'm 20 years old and he's 24. I do wanna move in with him but everything feels too rushed. And we had a massive fight two days before I cheated. I lied to him and said I was out with mates. But he clocked. I told him everything I done that night truthfully but I kept out the part where I did sleep with the other guy. I thought if I can keep it secret forever it will be like it never happened. But a day later I told him we slept together. My bf says he still loves me but he's forcing himself not to be with me cos he feels like a mug. Which I don't blame him. I said to him I made a huge mistake and it will never happen again cos I love him more than anyone ever. I made a mistake and it's killing me. I love him. One mistake. I would do anything to make things right and make my boyfriend happy forever. I want him back how can I get him back?
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 September 2014): Hi, I can only suggest that you start healing the fact that you slept with him is as a result of deeper problems with the relationship and your ex is not ready to forgive you or reconcile. He needs time, you need to stop begging don't send any messages and start to move on. The best is to go no contact and try and find peace and happiness within you. You cannot fix this, he is the only one that can forgive you and decide whether this relationship is worth fighting. So stop apologising and stop hounding him and start to accept that this is over. I think the relationship was over before you slept with guy as you were not happy and was looking for an out. Do not get involved with anyone , because you need to find out deep within you what is the way forward.
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 September 2014): Impossible to get him back, you have destroyed his trust in you completely. For some people, once someone cheats that is it, the end. He couldn't care less now if it was once or ten times, the fact you have cheated will be destroying him.As harsh as it sounds, if I were him I wouldn't give a shit about how much it is hurting you. Because the pain he is going through is so much worse. At any time you could've walked out and gone home and instead you stayed with a guy and cheated. Your ex wanted a future with you, granted it might have felt a bit fast for you but he wanted you to get a job, so you could enjoy holidays and a life together. You have to start showing you're sorry, because saying it won't really mean much. If he lets you talk to him once things have calmed down, maybe you can discuss what it would take for him to trust you again. But if not, I would take this as a serious lesson and don't repeat this mistake ever in the future.
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reader, lovernfighta91  +, writes (12 September 2014):
 Just know you cheated cause you were getting something from your ex bf. so you should in the mean time give him space and check yourself really of what you want. Many people say they want one thing but their actions show different. Plus yeah he's older but he's got a good head and he has every right to be mad and not forgive you but that's up to him. Plus if you do get back together it will take awhile to build trust especially if your not living together he will question your every action maybe so, but in the end search for what you really want, why you cheated, and find yourself don't let him make you go crazy.
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 September 2014): That would be hard. Honestly i think to get his respect back would be like asking for the moon. Unless he is madly in love with you.
If you will ask me. If i can forgive cheating. My answer is yes. But i will never forget what happen. I can never have a relationship with someone who cheats. However, your bf is not me. He might forgive n forget what happen.
I do believe you need a lot of prayers.
Also sacrifice your ego, pride, your happiness so he can give you a chance.
But dont lose hope.people do crazy things when their in love.
Good luck...
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