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writes: I am in love or infatuated with my ex-fiance's best friend who also became my business partner last year.I was in a long term relationship with a man for nine years. We continue to live together as friends for financial reasons. I put him through college and now it's my turn to be a student. Both of us are keenly aware that we have fundamentally irreconcilable differences and there is no hope of getting back together.I am a sensitive artist type and his best friend is also an artist. The friend never approved of our relationship, but he has always remained cordial and neutral. I see him every day and last year, we became business partners in an artistic endeavor. I write. He draws and does web design.The friend, my supposed business partner, rarely spends time with me alone despite numerous complaints on my part. He seems to time out his visits for just before my ex gets home and suddenly has something to do if he ends up being late. My ex is in no way interested in babysitting us as he knows how I feel, resulting in little or no collaborative work getting done. I have offered to quit the project more than once, but he apologizes and truthfully he is bogged down by his regular job.I am into astrology and naturally I've checked the charts. They say he's so intensely emotional that he'd never let this relationship happen (chicken) despite the perfect match of our charts. I am also afraid to make a move as he has stated that he can't have a girlfriend right now. In fact in nine years, he has only had one girlfriend and probably only that because my boyfriend pushed him into it. I spent more time with her than he did and he really loved her. He's a lovable, funny people person and always has at least one regular booty call at any given time but never a real relationship.Last week, he offered to take me to his mom's house learn to cook like his mom. I was all excited and then two days later he said his mom would just send over her special seasoning blend. Can anyone give me some insight into what is going on here? I really can't tell if he knows I like him and he's so adverse to rejecting me and having a confrontation that he won't tell me or what. It just amazes me that I see him every single day and he still can't get personal on any level.
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