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anonymous
writes:I'm living with my boyfriend of one year and two other guys in a flat share. We just moved into the area about half a year ago due to his job. I didn't fount a job myself until two months ago and was really depressed about that before..Now I really love my job. This isn't only for the work itself, also for my nice colleagues. One especially. Although he's 16 years older than me (I'm 20, he's 36) we get along fantastic and go out regularly for a drink after work. I even stayed at his place over night when it was too late for my train back home. After a while I started to get more serious feelings for him. As I was unsure about all of it, I tried to find out where he's standing by harmless flirting and some of his answers did confuse me, as I don't know if they're just pleasantries or if he really means it.E.g: me: "You know, you'd be the kind of man I'd totally go for. What a shame you don't fancy me" - "well, I didn't say that ... erm, I didn't say anything"I can't stop thinking about him and I'm afraid it puts me off my love life with my boyfriend (I didn't have an orgasm for weeks).I generally don't know if it's worth the while, as I know my colleague a free spirit and he was talking with me about that he's been long enough in England now, he's thinking about looking for a job in France or Italy. I'm really concerned about that as well, as I don't want him to leave, If he's now a lover or a friend.Is it worth trying?
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reader, funkeymonkey690 +, writes (6 December 2010):
obviously its natural to be attracted to other men when with someone but it's not fair on your partner if your feelings for him have lessened because of this guy at work.
the nicest thing you can do for your partner is to be honest with him.
yes, you don't know whether this colleague feels the same way but do you really want to get to that point and risk hurting your partner because you didnt have the guts to be honest from the outset?
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