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female
age
36-40,
anonymous
writes:I recently met a very interesting person who taught me to stop fretting over little worries and enjoy the larger picture of life.. At first.. I did not really feel the connection.. But the third time we met, it was all sparks flying.. and we found ourselves in bed before we could realise what happened.We started going out a few times per week and meeting for lunch/dinner after this, even holding hands while we were out though without any formal recognition of a relationship from both of us. I knew he was here for a limited period of time and I had told myself that I could handle it and I would not get too deeply involved. We regularly had sex sometimes very passionate other times it was very loving and affectionate. Once, while we were in bed.. and in action.. and he looked at me said he loves me.. he was the first to say it between us. I wonder if it was in the heat of the moment or maybe he did mean it.. Men function differently i guess. But it was definitely not get me laid since he was already getting it. So the day when he had to leave came sooner than expected and i found myself all confused, disoriented, sad because i thought i would be able to handle it and take it as a good time. I've had bfs before and i've been able to get over each of them. It's already two months since he's gone and i still haven't started to heal. Maybe because everything was so perfect, he didnt cheat, he didnt lie.. it was just some thing beyond our control. He just had to leave. We are still in touch.. through internet.. He told me that i should move on, which i believe is right. But everything isnt rational in heart. He is definitely moving on with his life but i still can't stop missing him every single day though i try not to let this affect my other activities. Sometimes he doesnt show up for days.. and sometimes he admits missing me too. But he's definitely going to meet new ppl and bond to others.. and there's nothing i can do.. I tell myself time will heal everything. Someone please tell me this will soon pass..
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 December 2010): It seems to me there are two answers to this question. If it was really love between you two and you care about what you guys had that much, then there has to be a way for you guys to be together and make it happen. If not, then the other answer is that you do need to move on. To make getting over him easier you need to stop talking to him. The fact that you are still talking to him is just making things more difficult. Try to stop talking to him and erase any pictures or anything like that. Then develope a meaningless crush on someone else and thats your escape.
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