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writes:This is a question for the girlies! More so lesbian girls/women...........when me and my ex girlfriend where having sex I never seemed to be able to orgasm when she fingered me. Is this like this for other women too? And how can I overcome this as I don't want to just orgasm through clitoral stimulation!
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reader, So_Very_Confused  +, writes (30 March 2012):
 the only way I can orgasm is through direct clitoral stimulation... fingering while feeling good will NOT bring me to orgasm.
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reader, person12345 +, writes (30 March 2012):
 "I don't want to just orgasm through clitoral stimulation!"
This is how women have orgasms though. Vaginas have very few nerve endings, it is not really a pleasure organ. It can feel good, but it's really more of an erogenous zone than anything else. Only 25% of women can orgasm through penetrative sex with a penis, and the vast majority of those are not because of vaginal stimulation, but indirect stimulation of the clitoris. Even the G-spot is generally thought to be the top of the clitoris. OP the clitoris is how women orgasm, not the vagina. I know you say you're with a woman, but to put in perspective, when was the last time you heard men complaining they couldn't orgasm from having their scrotum rubbed? It's basically the same scenario. I'm sure an incredibly small number of men can orgasm that way and a small number of women can orgasm without clitoral stimulation, but in general that's just not how it works. Many women find the combination of clitoral and vaginal to feel better than either alone, but I don't think you'll have much luck finding many women who can orgasm JUST from vaginal stimulation (no G-spot).
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reader, xgod +, writes (29 March 2012):
 The thing about being "fingered" is that there are so few nerve endings INSIDE the vagina that fingering does little or nothing for many women. The key to your orgasm is stimulation of both the clitoris and the Gräfenberg Spot ("G-spot") from inside the vagina.
For you to orgasm, the nerves associated with orgasm must be stimulated. Just moving fingers around inside your vagina will do nearly nothing.
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reader, PerhapsNot +, writes (29 March 2012):
 Neither can I. There is nothing wrong with you.
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 March 2012): I think most women - if they are honest - would confirm that they only orgasm as a result of clitoral stimulation.
Why not try a combination of the two, fingering and clitoral?
Just be happy you can orgasm and enjoy!
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