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writes:My childhood friend and I have always had a strange relationship. We called ourselves boyfriend and girlfriend from the time we were 2 until we were 7 and ever since we have always been completly comfortable around eachother , I am normally shy around guys but around him I am goofy and outgoing while he is normally obnoxious and loud around others he is understanding and relaxed around me. We always seem to go back and forth with liking eachother ofcourse at seperated times and I always wait till I have moved on to tell him ( and that drives him crazy) but latly I can't stop thinking about him and I think I want to lose my virginity to him. I feel safe and comfortable with him , but of course even though all my friends tell me he is in love with me and would drop anything for me I can't get up the nerve to discuss the fact I want to be with him, possibly intimatly. In your opinion should I open up and see if he would like to have a relationship with me or should I stick to being his dutiful best friend?
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reader, RAINORFIRE +, writes (8 August 2009):
 wow this is interesting, ok first off you need to take things slow i dont kno any blu blooded teen that wouldnt want the opportunity your offering so would say go for it but start by flirting and hanging out with him more dont tell him you love him or any thing like that.be creative you could say something like " i wish i had a bf to take me to the mall" sounds cheesy but his reaction will give you nsight into what he thinks about you.teenage boys are pretty simple they want food sex and a sport to play, Girl issues are to complicated for them so stick to the basics. find out how he feels about you without telling him your feelings. you could put him on the spot and just ask himif he likes you just for fun, if he says no dont take him seriously ask him why. your a girl of course he likes you unless hes gayyou could try being honest and strate forward but it could be to mutch for him to handle thats why i suggest taking it slow its funner that way at your age plus you can learn some things.well good luck hope you get your guy
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 August 2009): Do what your heart desires. But in this case look out because you have been friends so long you have so much in common , it might hurt you in the long run . When you finally have you special monment it might just break your friendship. The Best thing to do is ask.
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reader, LazyGuy  +, writes (8 August 2009):
 Open up but don't rush things. Lets face it, if things didn't develop yet, he might either not be intrested or just not ready. Boys mature less slowly then girls. You suggest to play mommy and daddy, he gets out the dolls.
Maybe the reason you ain't got the nerve is because you ain't yet ready yourself.
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 August 2009): well from what I experienced n im about the same age as u.I say what do u have to lose if u dont try. ask him how he feels about u and if he wants to have a relationship with u. Im pretty sure he would if yal been liking each other for a long time. you could wait for lil hints that he still likes u and then go on a date n c what happens from there. i hope that helps a lil.could u give me ur opinion 2...my thingy is "FWB, but I'm falling in love with him"
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