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writes: i cant get over my teacher. he taught me 2 years ago and has even left the school now but i still cant move on. now ive fancied a lot of people before but this is different....fancying someone makes you feel good but this is just tearing me apart! at school i act the same as ive always done but when alone im really depressed. theres no chance of us being together i know that but i cant move on...its like hes haunting me ...i see him everywhere and think about him all the time but they arent erotic thoughts and i never really think about the physical side of the relationship we could have more about us just being together. its like hes a drug and im having withdrawl symptoms from him. i need him and im sure im in love with him...am i? is this love? if it is how can i get over him as we'll never be together? please help x
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reader, helpme!!!!  +, writes (11 June 2008):
 i understand completelyIt has almost been 4 years now since i noticed him. At first i thought it was just because he was good looking and young--er at the time but now i dont think it is. He was the first person i ever really thought was goodlooking and i guessed that i really fancied. So i think i have some srt emotional attachment- which is not so good. He taught me about 2 years ago and i will occasionally say hello and a passing convosation about the subject. I guess that makes me happy. But then i think of all the chances i mess up and all the opportunities i have to say something. Its killing. When i see him i am happy and sad at the same time. I know that he will never like me and i have wasted about 3 years of my life. But that doesnt stop me thinking about him especailly at night when i am trying to sleep. Its not always as bad as this. My friends dont really know the full depth of my worries and i would prefer if they didnt but at school i just shrug it off.i want to stop this madness going on in my head but then i ask myself do i really want to. i love him. at least i think i doand its not puppy loveno way i too should be in some sort of mental health unit and probably sectioned.i too never have really thought about anything physical it doesnt really bother me. i know he is getting married this summer but that too isnt a big deal.i understand how it must be hard for you him having left the school. How you dont even see him and yet you still love him or at least think you do.my advice for what its worth being about half a year late and he's probably out of your system now anyway is this.1) imagine yourself in 10 years time- you will probably look back with embarrisment. i do now2) try out new and exciting things that you have never done before3)face facts. You shouldnt be wasting your life on some guy that is never gunna love you back.4) make a list of all the bad points. It may seem hard to think of them but you will find some5) finally i know this hassnt been much help and really i just wanted to put my point across as i was about to explode but when it comes down to teacher love don't dwell on it.maybe that will help, it hasnt ever worked for me but it might for yougood luckx
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 March 2008): i too am in love with my teacher, and i know that its love, because when i first figured that i had feelings for him, i just felt happy and pretty around him, but now its suffocting me - hes all i think about, nd whenever e comes in the room, my chest contracts and i just want to run away and my heart feels all fluttery and heart-attack-y, and i just want to cry all the time in the wrong places, and im becoming paranoid, and everywhere i go im thinking, thoughts racing thru my head at 100 mph, he could be here, he colud see me, omg what if my hair doesnt look ok etc tec anf its made me severely depresed and i dont have anyone ot talk to about all , and i swaer to god i think im going to have a breakdown any day with all my exam stresses and everything, and this love is just killing me, so i know exactly how you feel "tearing me apart" is exactly how i would descirbe my emotions, but most of the time i just feel dead inside and worthless and childish and pathetic, ad i just wish more than anything that he would feel something for me. sorry i don't have any advice, but t least you'll know that you're not alone in how you feel. i really should probably be speaking to a therapist right now before i start going crazy.
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 January 2008): i know how you feel, i have a crush on my form tutor and i cant seem to get rid of it. I really like him and because he is my form tuor i see him every day! And we go in his room at lunch and sometimes he eats with us in there.
I no he likes me and my friends and most people say we are his favourite. The best thing to do, and this has worked for me, is to think about him as much as you want and get it out of your system. If you try not to then you think of him more. Hopefully it will pass, is he married? you didnt say. If he is then think of his happiness as well but if he is sinle and relatively near your age then waiting a few years until you are no longer a student might not be so bad.
I hope this helps
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 December 2007): I have to admit to having fallen in 'puppy-love' with a few of my former male teachers. I have, by now, forgotten their names as well as what subjects they taught. This is puppy-love, or a crush, and it's perfectly normal at your age, (if not at my age as well).
This feeling will pass. Just DON'T act on it, and try to keep occupied. You'll met other guys, teachers or not, and you'll forget about this man.
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 December 2007): well im in the same situation as im in love with my history teacher but he still teachs me. i know how ur feeling as when im alone i feel depressed and i try to hold it together when im with people but something i cant and i break down. it got really bad for me and i end up having a massive breakdown in school and having to see a therpist. when i look at it now if i hadnt had that breakdown i probably wouldnt have told anyone about my depression which would have made it worst. it still isnt great but at least better than it was well some of the time. i advise speak to a trusted friend or family member or if you cant do not then make a doctors appointment and say how you are feeling to her, you dont have to say about the teacher if you dont want to. she will probably make an appointment for you with a therpist etc. this is how it went for me. i cant say just get over him, as i know how hard it is and its even worst for you as he has left your school. when im with my teacher i feel really happy and i get butterflies in my stomach as well. i cant get over him and part of me doesnt want to as i love him dearly, i love everything about him. hope this helped
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