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30-35,
anonymous
writes:I can't get over my ex boyfriend. We've been over for four months and I've done everything wrong. I've tried getting him back by begging and crying and telling him how I felt and I guess guys don't like to hear all that junk. So I moved on and once I did he came back and texted me telling me he wanted me back and he liked me again even though it's been a couple months since we were over and it was all a scam to check and see if I still did like him. Anyways he would always text me before this saying that he never loved me and he used me but I never got hurt from him saying it because I knew what we had was real. Now he's making up lies saying that I've cheated on him and I swear I have not. I want him back still he was the best boyfriend ever and I feel as if I really did hurt him because thats what all of my friends say his friends say. He honestly thinks I really did cheat on him when I really did not. Or he's making it up to look better to his friends and have an actual reasoning. I cry over him to much and I just can't seem to ever get him off my mind. The worst part is he still texts me every couple of weeks and he always has something to say whether its good or bad. For a while I tried not answering and he would flip out. But whenever we talk we get into a fight about the past and how much we hate each other but I really don't hate him and I really don't think he hates me either. I think fighting is the way of showing we still love each other but we cannot be with each other because of other peoples thoughts. Any help on winning him back? We've called each other every swear word out there and when I see him in person he has nothing to say we just walk past each other like strangers. Suggestions and I see him everyday at college.
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 March 2011): Hi there,How do you feel after all these outbursts and him saying one thing and you hearing it from your friends about another thing? You shouldn't have to feel like crying constantly with someone that "loves" you. You are still young and have a lot going for you. There's a whole world waiting for you to jump into adventures of learning. I know it's so cliche but you will certainly find someone who's so much more fulfilling. I can guarantee that. And this person will help make your dreams come true. Don't let this keep you from where you're suppose to be. Do something different, something you're afraid to do. Do something like wood crafting, manicure or pedicure, girly girl things, do your hair differently, learn a new language, thinking of buying your own car? How about an apartment to call your own some day? Do you want to travel to some far off country or city? Gosh...there's so much to do and see. But like Aradeah said...you need to let him go. YOu don't want to go around crying all day, love. You are a smart and wonderful gal. I can tell. Don't spend your day at home crying and moping around. You were able to get yourself to move on with your chin up. Don't let some guy's words keep you from being that mature woman that you are!
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reader, Aradeah  +, writes (26 March 2011):
First thing hunny is that nearly every woman goes through this experience. Although you may feel alone and its tough to go through trust me you are not alone! You need to to write down what it is that makes you feel that you two belong together, list all the bad he has done and then list the good. Sometimes we have to accept that we have to let one person out who is wrong for us in order to let the right one in. You are young free single and beautiful being who deserves to be with a man who wants to be with you. I know that it is hard and you feel simply like dying or curling up in a ball in depression but make a ritual of this relationship passing, make it an event so you can mourn. My friend taught me this trick. When you have listed everything place it in a fire proof container or just on a fire, say all your feelings of hurt out loud, and as that paper burns say a little prayer to bring strength and happiness back in. You do have to let this man go. Waiting for him to text will fade and may take up to a year, see it as energy that he was around you so filled your space with energy, as that energy fades because he has gone your own energy has to feel that void and its a shock to the system. Eventually your own energy will consume any remaining energy he has left but at the moment your whole being is out of sorts because it was used to him, like anything change will soon be the norm. Trust me people will judge you not on whats happened to you but how you deal with it, deal with like a lady. Chin up, take back that pride and show him you are better by not giving him another thought. Let his energy fade. Fill it with something else. Paint your room, put any of his things left behind in a box and put it somewhere safe. Don`t get rid of it but put it where its out of temptation. Loft, parents house etc. Get your hair done, buy a new outfit and look at it as the start of something new not the end of something. Treat it as he is not coming back into your life and take it day by day. x
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