I can't get over her but she seems just fine

A male age 30-35, anonymous writes:

Hello there, I'm 17 years old.I'm tall and a little skinny(not sure if it matters though). I never really had a real relationship before, there was a girl in our school i knew her we only talked once, i had her msn but we never really talked, she had a boyfriend too. Anyway after a year we suddenly started to chat, a month later she broke up with her boyfriend she knew that i was interested in her though i never said anything like that. After the break up we kept getting close, she was beautiful,cute, smart and everything. But i didnt want to be just a shoulder to cry on, didnt want her to use me to help her forget her ex-bf.So i kept the distance for another month everything was under control then my birthday came and gave me a gift, a precious one. I think i fell in love with her. So i thought i should make my move but before i did she asked me out. Date went great after 2 dates someone from the school has seen us probably people started to ask if we're dating. I didnt really say anything later that day she asked me if i told people we're dating, she said that she had other bfs like me(just friends) then i told her that i liked her she didnt say anything, i felt terrible but before i go to bed that night she said that she likes me as well.I was happy everything got better and better(a little too slow though, it was my first relationship after all).After 2 months i got used to having a gf it was fun and i was happy. A day after our most recent date(which was wonderful, she told me that she loved me alot, multiple times while theres no reason).And a day after she said that shes not feeling like my gf, said that we were better when we were just friends.I couldnt say anything, I wasnt angry, i just started to love her more than ever before.I just said "Okay, if that is your wish". That day was hard but i think i was shocked i didnt really understand whats going on, the second day was horrible though i was completly destroyed no text messages from her no one saying hi on MSN.My first night alone i talked to her on msn asked her if theres something else, she said no.I asked her to come back she said "I love you, as a friend" which was the worst experience i ever had.I dont know if i did anything wrong i was always kind and gentle towards her, I was there when she needed me.We never had a fight or an argument. I just, dont know i want her back but theres nothing i can do about it, i know i should move on but i just cant.I see her everyday and there was a guy who was in love with her, i never said anything about him to her, didnt tell her to stay away from her, i trusted her and respected her. the second day we broke up i saw her with that guy, just after the school, they were walking together.She wasnt talking to him when we were together. My only regret is that I've been a little ignorant time to time just a little though, when i wasnt feeling well and such. I cant get on the freaking msn i cant go into "my documents" folder cause her pictures are there. I have no idea what to do. I knew she had many bfs before me, she told me that i was special though(no idea why, i didnt ask). She doesnt seem sad or down.Shes just fine, doesnt care at all. Help me if you can, thanks.

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