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30-35,
anonymous
writes:About three months ago I ended things with a girl I was involved with. It wasn't a relationship and we were just getting to know each other. Unfortunately, I had a lot of pressure on me from school so I didn't get to know her as well as I would have liked to. Realizing I couldn't be there as much as I wanted to I ended things with her. My coursework and stress has cleared up now and after three months we started to speak to each other again. I feel really upset with myself for not treating her so well. While I wasn't mean or hurtful, I was often too distracted and apathetic about our blooming relationship. I still have a great deal of feelings for her and would like to see her romantically again. How can I go about this? Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 April 2009): I agree with ask m, the most important thing is that you've started talking to her again. I would try to ease in from a friendship by slowly calling/seeing her more every week, showing her that you can be attentive. When you feel it is the right time, tell her how you feel, that you know you made some mistakes in the past, but that you want to make it work and that you can be a better boyfriend. If she feels the same and she has already seen some of this by your actions (not just your words), I think you have a chance :)I was in a similar situation and that is what my boyfriend did to get me back.
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reader, ask.m  +, writes (11 April 2009):
 I guess the best thing is you've started already by becoming friends again.
Now that your stress & studies are over why dont you push the boat out a bit? and start by treating her the way you think she deserves.
I'm sure she'll realise soon enough that all that happened before was a mistake GL
M
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