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writes:I've just come out of the Re-hab center for the clinically depressed. I had a nervous breakdown and when I was admitted I was engaged to a wonderful man - let's call him D. And while I was at the clinic I met an amazing man, L. He is in for Anger management and the two of us got on like a house on fire. I broke my engagement of to be D to be with L and now I'm scared!I'm scared that I have made a choice that I'm not sure I can handle. I feel like I'm going back into my depressive state.L is such a wonderful man. He promised to give me everything and the scary thing is that I believe him.I have never felt so safe with anyone. I trust him with my life and he doesn't even need to be around and I still feel safe because everyone knows that I'm L's girl and now one will hurt me!But I don't know if I'm doing the right thing! Help me Please!!!
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 July 2006): That you have fear should indicated to you that you haven't made a good decision.
That you suffer depression and fear of going back into it, please see your family doctor.
That you feel safe only because you are L's girl is not a good and reliable feeling-it will pass.
That L has anger management issues should ring alarm bells.
It is natural to start to develop feelings for someone who you spent a lot of time with and who would be on level ground with you because he has his own issues to sort out.
When you are in a depressional (yeah sounds made up to me to) state; is it safe to say that your decisions may be clouded and may be lacking sound judgement?
I think you need to remember why you fell in love with D and why you decided to accept his proposal. I also think you should wonder why you need a man for strength and safety.
Have you had some personal counselling to help you sort out and prioritize your needs?
I think having someone you can talk to and who is there to listen and help you is a first step to anyone who may be struggling with unresolved issues from childhood and present life, who may be struggling with their identity and self worth, who may be struggling with family relationships and romantic relationships, who may just need a listening ear.
I suggest seeking a pyschotherapist, psychologist-some form of psychological counselling.
I hope I was able to lend you some insight.
Best of luck.
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 July 2006): you ll have to wait and see obv.it sounds as it could be the best decision you ever made, so roll with it x
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